Valentines day

[Katster]

I quite a girly girl, romantic at heart and hoped one day the guy i had the hots for would say he felt the same way on valentines day.

[spwan-of-the-devil]

yep indeedy, we'll be there. Not sure where we're sitting yet!

[Guest musiclove123]

Pancake Day involves cooking. So I am out

[Guest musiclove123]

I remember feeling that way, years ago, way back when. My mum, thinking she was helping, sent a card from an anonymous admirer. It was obvious as hell it was from her, which only made things worse

[Katster]

Pancake Day involves cooking. So I am out

[rabid]

i hate the "why do you need one day to show how much you care" argument

you dont need ONE day, its just nice that there is a day where you can go over the top

why should you do something nice for your mom on mothers day? you gonna tell her f**k YOU MA when it comes down to the crunch of mothers day cause you cleared her gutter in november?

my girlfriend is taking me to play laser quest and then we're makin porn

[//ross]

I got took out for a meal one Valentine's Day. It was so depressing. It was quite clear he didn't want to be there, couldn't be arsed, and probably just wanted to get home to watch the footy. I looked around the restaurant at all the other couples and not one couple looked happy. If you're going to celebrate Valentine's Day, do it because you want to, because you like it (like Nightcrawler13), not because Hallmark and society says it's a day you should spoil your significant other.

[Guest musiclove123]

If you sit in a restaurant looking depressed because you have to spend time with/money on your partner, then you shouldn't be with them in the first place. must have been a really shit spread of people at your chosen restaurant, if not one couple looked happy to be together.

This is definitely my favourite attitude:

As if we all beat our girlfriends 364 days a year. No, it's a good excuse to go above and beyond and really spoil them and do something special (something that a lot of people would love to, but don't have the chance to do every single day of the year, due to work, money, other commitments, or whatever) And if you love someone, surely it's only natural to take even the lamest of excuses to spoil your partner.

I honestly think that the majority people who have a real dislike for valentines day are those who want to be in a relationship but are not, those who are in a relationship but don't want to be, or plain scrooges.

[nightcrawler13]

my birthday is on pancake day this year!

im spending a longggg weekend in edinburgh with my girl, i cant wait, she apparently has an itinerary planned for every day

[dakyras]

As if we all beat our girlfriends 364 days a year. No, it's a good excuse to go above and beyond and really spoil them and do something special (something that a lot of people would love to, but don't have the chance to do every single day of the year, due to work, money, other commitments, or whatever) And if you love someone, surely it's only natural to take even the lamest of excuses to spoil your partner.

I honestly think that the majority people who have a real dislike for valentines day are those who want to be in a relationship but are not, those who are in a relationship but don't want to be, or plain scrooges.

Edited February 9, 2010 by dakyras

[Guest musiclove123]

That's what birthdays are for ffs. It's not something special if every other consumerist f**k is doing it. If you really cared you'd do it on the spur of the moment, and not wait for the same bloody day to roll around. Monotony en mass is really special

[dakyras]

I agree that you should suprise your partner not just on V day. However the day reminds people who perhaps have very busy lives (stressful job, kids) to show how special their partner is to them. Who cares if it is commercial

[rachbon]

i really dislike valentines day. i don't see the point in it. why do you need a tacky card to tell someone you love them? i'll get my boyfriend a card, cause he doesn't hate it as much as me. he'd rather we got cards and presents so we've compromised at just buying cards.

me and rexclark always do nice things for each other and i'm much happier when he says nice things to me, rather than getting me a stupid f**king card with some soppy meaningless wee poem in it.

i'm happy when he does considerate things like putting my jammies on the heater so i can put my warm jammies on when i get home from work. that means so much more to me than an overpriced card and a meal in a resuarant full of daft couples.

I honestly think that the majority people who have a real dislike for valentines day are those who want to be in a relationship but are not, those who are in a relationship but don't want to be, or plain scrooges.

[dakyras]

i really dislike valentines day. i don't see the point in it. why do you need a tacky card to tell someone you love them? i'll get my boyfriend a card, cause he doesn't hate it as much as me. he'd rather we got cards and presents so we've compromised at just buying cards.

me and rexclark always do nice things for each other and i'm much happier when he says nice things to me, rather than getting me a stupid f**king card with some soppy meaningless wee poem in it.

i'm happy when he does considerate things like putting my jammies on the heater so i can put my warm jammies on when i get home from work. that means so much more to me than an overpriced card and a meal in a resuarant full of daft couples.

so people in relationships only hate valentines day cause they don't like the person they're with?

you are talking so much shite.

[Guest musiclove123]

I wont be going out to for a meal I dont think- purely because of how much places rip you off. A nice meal in with some wine and a dvd sounds nice to me

[rexclark]

i really dislike valentines day. i don't see the point in it. why do you need a tacky card to tell someone you love them? i'll get my boyfriend a card, cause he doesn't hate it as much as me. he'd rather we got cards and presents so we've compromised at just buying cards.

me and rexclark always do nice things for each other and i'm much happier when he says nice things to me, rather than getting me a stupid f**king card with some soppy meaningless wee poem in it.

i'm happy when he does considerate things like putting my jammies on the heater so i can put my warm jammies on when i get home from work. that means so much more to me than an overpriced card and a meal in a resuarant full of daft couples.

[dakyras]

rexclark went from "In a relationship" to "single"

[rexclark]

[//ross]

That's what birthdays are for ffs. It's not something special if every other consumerist f**k is doing it. If you really cared you'd do it on the spur of the moment, and not wait for the same bloody day to roll around. Monotony en mass is really special

[sadwitch]

It doesn't really feature for me, never has whether I've been in a relationship or not. I don't like being told to go and buy something red and cringeworthy so I don't. I'd rather do something nice because I thought it was a good idea at the time. I agree with Dakyras.

The only time I got involved was last year when I sent a card to my boyfriend mocked up to look like it had been sent from the corporation he works for, as I had been teasing him that he loved the company to a creepy extent having been on one too many brainwashing training courses. It totally fooled him and he took it to work and embarrassed himself before I could stop him. I felt slightly guilty. Mostly I just laughed myself silly.

[thegremlin_1999]

the cards bit is bollox.

buying a pressie, or taking her somewhere nice AROUND the actual day is ok. but the pressie will be something cool or a few dvd's she wants or something. i buy her soft toys all the time anyway!

reckon she'd agree with _rachelbon in that just little things like buying her a little something to cheer her up, even if its just chocolate or something, or just coming up to hers unexpectedly, or going for a nice walk to make her smile is more meaningful than all the card buying shitty nonsense!

[dakyras]

completely missing my point, which was that if you enjoy doing things for your partner then there is no reason not to do something special on a day that has become synonymous with such.. literally, why not. Just to be stubborn?

[nightcrawler13]

It's not being stubborn. We're not insecure enough in our relationship to make St Valentine's Day an important day in our lives. St Valentine's Day makes love a gimmick.

[Katster]

If you sit in a restaurant looking depressed because you have to spend time with/money on your partner, then you shouldn't be with them in the first place. must have been a really shit spread of people at your chosen restaurant, if not one couple looked happy to be together.

[Langdale Wolf]

Just went to Tescos to buy the wife a card. I didn't particularly want to, but she likes to get one so I do.

What a pile of mushy shite - I'm amazed there isn't a continuous stream of vomit flowing down by the card aisle. FFS - does ANYONE enjoy getting such fabricated tripe in an envelope? It's horrible.

I hate the teddy bears carrying love hearts. They're not cute.

I hate the rows of flowers and chocolates lining the shelves.

I hate all the shelves being red. It's like being in the Man Utd club shop and only more vomit enducing

I just hate this annoying, gimmicky, made up day.

Two days of the year, I spoil her rotten - her birthday and our anniversary, because they're special to us. Being told that a particular day is supposed to be special does my head in.

Bah.