Domestic Problems Number 3 in an incresasingly badled named theme of threads

[sifi]

I've never started seeing a girlfriend of a friend after they've broken up. Been the reason why they've broken up, but that's another question all together.

[Kowalski]

Fire straight in.

[RABun]

It depends how long they have been together, how your friend felt about them. How you and the girl feel about each other. How much more you value the girl than your friendship.

[Steve P]

Depends on how good a friend it is, and whether his now ex-girlfriend looks like she could suck a golf ball through a garden hose

[Pogues Mcgogues]

You have to remember nobody owns anyone or their rights. If two people are so attracted to one another there's nothing anyone can realy do about it.

That being said, there's another persons feelings involved and it has to be done with quite some tact at times.

[ampersand]

has happened to me once. i'd say a few weeks is fair enough. but then it depends on the friend, and how close him and the girlfriend were. more so the first part though.

[sifi]

has happened to me once. i'd say a few weeks is fair enough. but then it depends on the friend, and how close him and the girlfriend were. more so the first part though.

[oafc0000]

Really depends how hot they are

[ampersand]

Were they fooling around behind your back?

[spwan-of-the-devil]

Only if it was like about 6months to a year after and then it would be with their blessing

Depends as well how closer mates I am with them as well.

[dakyras]

My current (and only) girlfriend of 5 years 5 monthsish had recently been dumped by a friend who I used to be quite close with when I started getting close with her. I don't regret it for a second. She's made my life much better than losing contact with the friend made it worse. You can meet new friends, but not the love of your life.

I'm such a softy.

[Ed209]

why wait till they split up?

[oafc0000]

why wait till they split up?

[Kowalski]

why wait till they split up?

[rexclark]

A good few years ago my mate split with his girlfriend to go back out with his ex. I then asked him if he'd mind me asking the girl he dumped out. He said he wasn't too fussed (especially since he dumped her on Christmas eve. )

Me and the girl ended up going out for a very brief period and my mate was swiftly dumped again by his ex.

In smmary I think It's ok to do this as long as you clear it with your mate first, especially if they've split in dubious circumstances.

[Gre]

Depends completely on how long & how close the relationship was, and how much you value your friend.

If they were doinking for a couple of months, and then split up, then go for it. And if the friend has a problem tough, really.

If they were engaged or whatever, you're probably going to lose your friend.

And if he/she cheated on your friend to be with you, you're probably not a great friend in the first place, and he/she probably isn't a great boy/girlfriend.

[saratink]

totally depends. Say they were together years and living together, and you two were best friends?

I don't think that would be very good. Like said before, depends how much you value someone as a friend. If you didn't care about loosing that person as a mate, then go for it.

[ampersand]

totally depends. Say they were together years and living together, and you two were best friends?

I don't think that would be very good. Like said before, depends how much you value someone as a friend. If you didn't care about loosing that person as a mate, then go for it.

[saratink]

but you voted never

[ampersand]

how do you know? :S

[saratink]

it's a public vote.

[Paul ™]

it's a public vote.

[pehaw]

I can't see anyone elses tho?!!

[jump]

That happened in my group of friends once, and the way the two of them were bangin on about made it sounded like war between them.

Personally I wouldn't bother as I don't want my mate's cast off or if she dumped him betraying the "bros before hoes" rule.

[rachbon]

i think if you feel so strongly about someone that you really want to be with them and think you can have a future together, i don't think you should let anything stop you and your friend should understand that if they're a good enough friend.

if i had that situation with my boyfriend, i still would have went out with him even if it meant losing a friend. he's made me much happier in the three years that we've been together than any of my friends had in my whole life up to that point.

you should definitely talk to them about it first though. even if they're not happy with it and you decide to do it anyway, at least you tried.