singles thread

[amy246]

What about galleries/museums? They are all free and the Science Museum in London does adults nights for free entry once a month with a silent disco, drinks and various other stuff maybe there's something like that round your area.

Wish there was more interesting stuff in the area, most museums etc are only open daytime which is a bugger cos of work and stuff, other ideas are further away and what with his van dying and lack of money plus the fact i don't drive kinda rules those ideas out. Might see if i can find any close cheap but good plays as i know he likes theatre and drama.

[VCK]

OK, an update on the girl I had previously posted about.

For those who don't know the situation, I've been speaking to this girl for about 2 months. I like her, I've felt at times she likes me just through little things she does and says. I feel I've played it a bit too cool though. I mean, I once gave her a hug and I've invited her out one or two times - as a social group thing - but she pulled out. I even offered to pay for her ticket for a gig she wanted to go to with me, but then she realised she had no money. I talk to her whenever I can in person but I've only commented on her Facebook once, and only texted her regarding social events.

Now, last week she added this guy from College she never spoke to previously. She posted on his wall, and they've been having long conversations with little flirty/banter-ish comments thrown in. He's always commenting on her posts. They spoke a lot at College last week, and when I was trying to talk to her he just couldn't shut up! It's like he's getting in my way.

Any ideas how to win back her attention? I'm not looking for "just ask her out!" or "just tell her how you feel!" answers. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I just want to get her onside again before it's too late.

[jump]

OK, an update on the girl I had previously posted about.

For those who don't know the situation, I've been speaking to this girl for about 2 months. I like her, I've felt at times she likes me just through little things she does and says. I feel I've played it a bit too cool though. I mean, I once gave her a hug and I've invited her out one or two times - as a social group thing - but she pulled out. I even offered to pay for her ticket for a gig she wanted to go to with me, but then she realised she had no money. I talk to her whenever I can in person but I've only commented on her Facebook once, and only texted her regarding social events.

Now, last week she added this guy from College she never spoke to previously. She posted on his wall, and they've been having long conversations with little flirty/banter-ish comments thrown in. He's always commenting on her posts. They spoke a lot at College last week, and when I was trying to talk to her he just couldn't shut up! It's like he's getting in my way.

Any ideas how to win back her attention? I'm not looking for "just ask her out!" or "just tell her how you feel!" answers. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I just want to get her onside again before it's too late.

You're jealous over her posting on someone's facebook profile and now panicing, to be honest it's your own fault for not asking her out then and it's all well and good saying "how do I win her back" but by the time you figure out how to do it the other guy will have asked her out.

[spg]

meh, back on the pile again

[Gre]

You're jealous over her posting on someone's facebook profile and now panicing, to be honest it's your own fault for not asking her out then and it's all well and good saying "how do I win her back" but by the time you figure out how to do it the other guy will have asked her out.

Plus I'm not sure you 'had' her in the first place. It sounds harsh, but mebbe she likes this guy more than you. Mebbe she sees you as a friend, mebbe they ran into each other outside college & discovered they like each other.

Other than 'don't be a mental about it', I'm not sure what to say. Be normal around her, have conversations, engage her. The usual really.

But then I'm as single and as f**ked up in the head as anyone, there's no good reason to listen to me

[Sparticus]

OK, an update on the girl I had previously posted about.

For those who don't know the situation, I've been speaking to this girl for about 2 months. I like her, I've felt at times she likes me just through little things she does and says. I feel I've played it a bit too cool though. I mean, I once gave her a hug and I've invited her out one or two times - as a social group thing - but she pulled out. I even offered to pay for her ticket for a gig she wanted to go to with me, but then she realised she had no money. I talk to her whenever I can in person but I've only commented on her Facebook once, and only texted her regarding social events.

Now, last week she added this guy from College she never spoke to previously. She posted on his wall, and they've been having long conversations with little flirty/banter-ish comments thrown in. He's always commenting on her posts. They spoke a lot at College last week, and when I was trying to talk to her he just couldn't shut up! It's like he's getting in my way.

Any ideas how to win back her attention? I'm not looking for "just ask her out!" or "just tell her how you feel!" answers. I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. I just want to get her onside again before it's too late.

Regarding the second paragraph. He wouldn't shut up because he probably likes her too. If the assumption that he likes her is correct then he is actively getting in your way, it's what people do lol.

How to win back? Make her notice you, make her know you're fun and that she's missing out whenever you're not around. But ultimately, you do have to ask her out. You can't fobb it off with "i'll cross that bridge when I get to it", since let's be honest, why haven't you crossed it already? There's others sniffing around, so it's either act and act now, or plot your next move and watch as someone sweeps her off her feet.

Best case scenario: You and her start dating and you get your end away.

Worst case scenario: You ask her out, she rejects you, you learn that rejection isn't the end of the world (like every other person on the planet) and find a new conquest.

Just don't over think it, since whilst you're thinking, someone else is doing.

[RABun]

I'm going through a vicious break-up only its with my brother. Its weird we're ending our relationship so in a way it feels like a romantic brewak-up when obviously its not, no weird incest type thing going on.

If it was just between my brother and me it would be ok, i can deal with that, but he's saying he will arrange for us to see our family seperately, which makes me feel like i'll be shut out of things because he's there and i hate that. We are a close family and do get together quite often. I think he should grow up, just because we are in the same room doesnt mean he has to talk to me. f**king families who'd have them.

probably the wrong thread.

[spwan-of-the-devil]

I'm going through a vicious break-up only its with my brother. Its weird we're ending our relationship so in a way it feels like a romantic brewak-up when obviously its not, no weird incest type thing going on.

If it was just between my brother and me it would be ok, i can deal with that, but he's saying he will arrange for us to see our family seperately, which makes me feel like i'll be shut out of things because he's there and i hate that. We are a close family and do get together quite often. I think he should grow up, just because we are in the same room doesnt mean he has to talk to me. f**king families who'd have them.

probably the wrong thread.

Know that feeling in the past! Me moms side and its just one of them it will pass in the end.

Right need some advice people Yeah im still happy by meself but think I have a crush on someone who I know and see her at times in the gym and done the plesentaries and smile at eatch other and cant work it out!

*Bet someone says grow a pair**

[Jackmypie]

Looking for some lean steak to get my teeth into.

[minute5072]

Looking for some lean steak to get my teeth into.

I bet you don't even know what that means...

[Jackmypie]

I bet you don't even know what that means...

No

[jump]

Know that feeling in the past! Me moms side and its just one of them it will pass in the end.

Right need some advice people Yeah im still happy by meself but think I have a crush on someone who I know and see her at times in the gym and done the plesentaries and smile at eatch other and cant work it out!

*Bet someone says grow a pair**

I only say that to Wimbledon, all that Take That music has made him very feminine.

What can't you work out? How to take it from random person to friend, asking her out, if she likes you or not etc?

[ampersand]

Right need some advice people Yeah im still happy by meself but think I have a crush on someone who I know and see her at times in the gym and done the plesentaries and smile at eatch other and cant work it out!

next time you're at the gym, go to the machine next to her and wear some loose fitting short shorts and do some lunges. make your point that way, see if she smiles or if she's repulsed.

[spwan-of-the-devil]

I only say that to Wimbledon, all that Take That music has made him very feminine.

What can't you work out? How to take it from random person to friend, asking her out, if she likes you or not etc?

at Take That

Honestly its the both in a way of Working it out weather she likes me or not or if she's being polite kinda thing!

[jump]

at Take That

Honestly its the both in a way of Working it out weather she likes me or not or if she's being polite kinda thing!

You'll just have to try and read her body language. Does she aproach you 1st, does she make direct eye contact, does she raise a slight smile etc? It might be worth seeing how she interacts with other people to notice any differences between them and yourself.

[spwan-of-the-devil]

You'll just have to try and read her body language. Does she aproach you 1st, does she make direct eye contact, does she raise a slight smile etc? It might be worth seeing how she interacts with other people to notice any differences between them and yourself.

Yeah ill try to im normally quite good at doing that, so im normally not to bad! Yeah she does raise a little smile and we have eye contact as well in the past while talking!

[markeee]

next time you're at the gym, go to the machine next to her and wear some loose fitting short shorts and do some lunges. make your point that way, see if she smiles or if she's repulsed.

LOL, done right that could be amusing, good ice breaker, see if she has a sense of humour lol

[jump]

Girls are weird. A girl I haven't seen ages emailed me this morning so I said hi etc. and asked how she was doing and she hasn't replied back. Come to think of it a few girls have done that to me before where they will randomly message me and then not reply back.

[RABun]

Girls are weird. A girl I haven't seen ages emailed me this morning so I said hi etc. and asked how she was doing and she hasn't replied back. Come to think of it a few girls have done that to me before where they will randomly message me and then not reply back.

I've had that a few times before. Its weird i wish i knew why.

[markeee]

Girls are weird. A girl I haven't seen ages emailed me this morning so I said hi etc. and asked how she was doing and she hasn't replied back. Come to think of it a few girls have done that to me before where they will randomly message me and then not reply back.

Oh yea I get that from time to time, just annoying, not really hugely bothered - some girl sends me a message on fb , I reply, then...nothing

why bother messaging me in the first place if she doesn't want to reply to anything I say? hmm

[amy246]

Update - met up with this guy i knew from uni the other day, i knew he liked me however decided to keep things friendly til we met up in person again, didn't want to call it a date and then meet and realise we just dont click. Turns out not only do we have quite a bit in common, we have chemsitry, and yeah, things are going well. However only downside is he lives in Suffolk and i'm in Derby.

[saratink]

Update - met up with this guy i knew from uni the other day, i knew he liked me however decided to keep things friendly til we met up in person again, didn't want to call it a date and then meet and realise we just dont click. Turns out not only do we have quite a bit in common, we have chemsitry, and yeah, things are going well. However only downside is he lives in Suffolk and i'm in Derby.

That's awesome , hope it goes well for ya!!

[jump]

I'm getting very annoyed that the girl on the other floor I keep flirting with on the lift keeps seeing me on days when I haven't shaved or wearing a crap shirt.

[ampersand]

I'm getting very annoyed that the girl on the other floor I keep flirting with on the lift keeps seeing me on days when I haven't shaved or wearing a crap shirt.

wimbledon's top tip. shave daily and only wear good shirts to work.

you're welcome!

[jump]

wimbledon's top tip. shave daily and only wear good shirts to work.

you're welcome!

Nah, Friday is going out night so when I got home from work I will have a fresh shave before pub/club rather than the night before/morning.

Have you had tried talking to any girls or got a message on a dating site yet?