Dealing with mixed signals from a woman

[VCK]

Yeah, there's this girl at College who I'm into, and I have my suspicions that she may like me back, I don't know though. Just little things she does and says.

She is usually a bit less talkative when she's around her mates, including males but I know this is natural as friends serve as a sort of "safety net" if you like. But on Friday I feel like I pissed her off a bit, I was with her and two guy mates but she seemed a bit more distant than usual, only laughing at a select few jokes and whatnot, and me being the conversation starter a lot of the time. We went to a bar for a drink, I said I was off for another cig and she said something like "oh god, VCK, these cigs are costing me money", sounding like she wanted to join me, so I jokingly said "I didn't invite you out though!". She seemed to take offence but when I said I was sorry and that I was only messing around she said she was as well. I decided not to go for the smoke as I was leaving pretty soonish anyway. Oh yeah, one of her guy mates

said I was "hinting at something". I just hope she feels I'm not being needy or owt.

But anyway, few of us are planning on going out next Wednesday. I asked her if she wanted to come and she sounded up for it, and offered for us to swap numbers. So I sent her a text on Saturday just casually asking if she's up for it and I still have no reply, yet I've seen her update her Facebook - on her Blackberry - a fair few times since! Too eager?

Suggestions on how to deal with this?

[minute5072]

Markeee?....

[Gre]

Markeee?....

[VCK]

Ah, didn't see the thread, no worries.

I'm just a bit worried I might have pissed her off in some way. Like, I might not be giving her enough space or whatever.

[gratedenini]

Yeah, there's this girl at College who I'm into, and I have my suspicions that she may like me back, I don't know though. Just little things she does and says.

She is usually a bit less talkative when she's around her mates, including males but I know this is natural as friends serve as a sort of "safety net" if you like. But on Friday I feel like I pissed her off a bit, I was with her and two guy mates but she seemed a bit more distant than usual, only laughing at a select few jokes and whatnot, and me being the conversation starter a lot of the time. We went to a bar for a drink, I said I was off for another cig and she said something like "oh god, VCK, these cigs are costing me money", sounding like she wanted to join me, so I jokingly said "I didn't invite you out though!". She seemed to take offence but when I said I was sorry and that I was only messing around she said she was as well. I decided not to go for the smoke as I was leaving pretty soonish anyway. Oh yeah, one of her guy mates

said I was "hinting at something". I just hope she feels I'm not being needy or owt.

But anyway, few of us are planning on going out next Wednesday. I asked her if she wanted to come and she sounded up for it, and offered for us to swap numbers. So I sent her a text on Saturday just casually asking if she's up for it and I still have no reply, yet I've seen her update her Facebook - on her Blackberry - a fair few times since! Too eager?

Suggestions on how to deal with this?

[RABun]

Hmmm i think she may have placed you into the friend zone. Either that or she is not sure how you feel about her.

The easiest (though not all that easy) way out is to actually tell her you like her, then make it clear that it's ok if she just wants to be friends.

just bite the bullet and say something, whats the worst that can happen?

[rabid]

just bite the bullet and say something, whats the worst that can happen?

[RABun]

Under that kind of pressure he could be absent mindedly masturbating while he's talking to her.

[rabid]

hmmm as socially inept as some men truly are - i have never seen a man absent mindedly masturbating in public.

[jump]

Yeah, there's this girl at College who I'm into, and I have my suspicions that she may like me back, I don't know though. Just little things she does and says.

She is usually a bit less talkative when she's around her mates, including males but I know this is natural as friends serve as a sort of "safety net" if you like. But on Friday I feel like I pissed her off a bit, I was with her and two guy mates but she seemed a bit more distant than usual, only laughing at a select few jokes and whatnot, and me being the conversation starter a lot of the time. We went to a bar for a drink, I said I was off for another cig and she said something like "oh god, VCK, these cigs are costing me money", sounding like she wanted to join me, so I jokingly said "I didn't invite you out though!". She seemed to take offence but when I said I was sorry and that I was only messing around she said she was as well. I decided not to go for the smoke as I was leaving pretty soonish anyway. Oh yeah, one of her guy mates

said I was "hinting at something". I just hope she feels I'm not being needy or owt.

But anyway, few of us are planning on going out next Wednesday. I asked her if she wanted to come and she sounded up for it, and offered for us to swap numbers. So I sent her a text on Saturday just casually asking if she's up for it and I still have no reply, yet I've seen her update her Facebook - on her Blackberry - a fair few times since! Too eager?

Suggestions on how to deal with this?

[t8yman]

ask her out, without other people. its not rocket science.

[gratedenini]

hmmm as socially inept as some men truly are - i have never seen a man absent mindedly masturbating in public.

[RABun]

Think you should get out a bit more RabC! We call it MasturMind.

Buses and Libraries are the prime locations for Masturmind...esp in the bigger towns and cities where activities aren`t scrutinised so much... extensive MasturMinding goes on.

A major giveaway for you to look out for RabC are w*nk slacks-- ie dirty tracksuit bottoms which afford the wearer easy access to their shopping basket at short notice. Usually worn by students and those on the sausage.

It is somewhat ironic that for the Ladies, this practice is much easier,for all that is required is a straight face and a steady hand to operate impliments such as love eggs or the penisator both of which can be concealled in knickerpockets (easily sew in by an elderly relative with the necessary needlework skills).

For the Gentleman, the concealment of a Third Leg is a wholly different proposition and offers the MasturMind Hunter some chance of a sucessful sighting.

All that said-- I do think your Claire Raynors are probably a better stance than my somewhat facetious offering

den

[gratedenini]

Well i shall be sure to do some masturmind hunting this evening on the bus. I may not be able to keep a straight face when confronted with a baggy tracky wearing student.

[Guest musiclove123]

Not enough talking about this girl in only physical terms

VCK;

1. Might be best to add this to the Singles thread

2. Chill out! So she's updated facebook a few times without replying to a message.

[VCK]

Sounds like she might just be playing it cool. There's that theory that you should wait a few days before replying to someone you like. She's keeping you on your toes mate!

[Matticus]

Well, Very Confused Kid..its pretty much impossible to give much advice based on the skimpiest of scenarios you portray.

But there are two things which I can impart to your goodself which should always keep you in good stead with regards the ladies.

Firstly, although you might consider it a somewhat arduous task at first... always carry LARD about your person in some guise or other... the women love it. LARD is the sign of a man..it suggests virility,stamina and the option of a well-lubricated quicky,preventing any chaffin to one or both parties.

And, of course..if you dont score with this lassie on Wednesday... you will always be the centre of attention back at your one bed flat containing 6 ravenous college men..cos they will want feeding eh!

See--play the percentage game VCK.

The second thing to remember about the fair woman is that they never masturbate for nowt!

Aye, an tha... unlike the man... waiting for the 2nd part of Countdown to come on..C4.. a stairlift ad is on with a fetching woman going round the bend at the top of the landing..camera is below .. a bloke will masturbate.

At the theatre..its ok, but thats about all.. the women are getting those tiny tubs of ice-cream for £4.50..you? Masturbating between the huge rafts of those red velvet curtains.

You are fishing (feshwater fishin).. you`ve used your last half pint of maggots up as a last resort but you get snagged and lose your last rig. Although you do feel some despair.. you still masturbate behind the sunken tree.

Are yer getting the picture?

Women plan to masturbate..... aye, an tha. I cant be too specific because, I feel if I give too much information here.. you will probably masturbate.. which if nothing else-- will prove my dissertation*

Well, look.. thats about it for now.. thats all I can help you with..plus theres the middle of the night re-run of Deal or No Deal on atm... and at the end of the latest No-Win-No-Fee advert theres this wee lassie.... so I shall contemplate the old two-finger spangle strangle.....

nah..too late. Its taking me 4-5hours to re-load nowadays..I`m away tee bed.

So, best of luck marrer... post away if theres owt else yer need sortin.

den

* dissertation..one of those Wormy / Tonto /Uni/Collegey words that I have never been very comfortable with but which I am trying to integrate into my vocabulary in order for me to be more easily accepted into your/their ranks. Diss-er-tation...

[jump]

Am i the only one who didnt get a word of that?!

Edited February 22, 2011 by jump

[gratedenini]

Am i the only one who didnt get a word of that?!

[RABun]

So? Are you home yet? Spot any? Will anybody be able to look at tracky bottoms again with an image of Masturmind?

den