Owing an ex money?

[funkymunkey]

If your ex of two years says that you owe them money for rent from when you lived together where do you stand legally?

If you were never married and they were scum of the earth and repeatedly cheated on you.

Cheers

[jump]

Depends on what you had in writing with the landlord really.

[worm]

If your ex of two years says that you owe them money for rent from when you lived together where do you stand legally?

If you were never married and they were scum of the earth and repeatedly cheated on you.

Cheers

[saratink]

Do you know you owe her money or has it just came out of nowhere that you do?

If you actually do owe her money and you know that you owe it her, I think you should give it back.

If its come from nowhere then don't give it back!

[worm]

If you actually do owe her money and you know that you owe it her, I think you should give it back.

[saratink]

Without law, this is a matter of moral obligation and it would appear that he's got a rather large get out clause going on there.

[ampersand]

That's what I meant, morally he should return it if he actually does owe it

[worm]

That's what I meant, morally he should return it if he actually does owe it

[funkymunkey]

It depends what you mean by "owe". I may not have always paid my share of the rent, and been covered by her, but that's what couples do right? She was earning more than me at times, and I was earning more than her at other times. I paid all the council tax for four years as she was a student, despite the fact that we were on comparable money. It actualy worked out that I was paying twice as much of what I would have paid had she not been a student, as I was paying for 75% of the council tax for the property as opposed to 50%. Despite this I don't want that money back, it's gone. The rent has been paid over two years ago and we've been living seperately for the last two years. She has mentioned this once or twice in that time, via text, but I've decided to ignore it on account of me not wanting to see her ever again.

I'm pretty certain that the lease at the time would have said that we were both responsible for the rent. As the rent has been paid that is no longer a debt and I owe her diddly squat. Otherwise courts would be full of cases with people arguing about who paid for a hotel on the 12th of five years ago.

Worm: long time no see, I've been busy. Have you heard Japanese Voyeurs yet? They are awesome!

[saratink]

I know what its like to be owed money and not get it back. And its not nice.

[worm]

I know what its like to be owed money and not get it back. And its not nice.

[funkymunkey]

I know what its like to be owed money and not get it back. And its not nice.

[worm]

It depends what you mean by "owe". I may not have always paid my share of the rent, and been covered by her, but that's what couples do right? She was earning more than me at times, and I was earning more than her at other times. I paid all the council tax for four years as she was a student, despite the fact that we were on comparable money. It actualy worked out that I was paying twice as much of what I would have paid had she not been a student, as I was paying for 75% of the council tax for the property as opposed to 50%. Despite this I don't want that money back, it's gone. The rent has been paid over two years ago and we've been living seperately for the last two years. She has mentioned this once or twice in that time, via text, but I've decided to ignore it on account of me not wanting to see her ever again.

Edited February 25, 2011 by worm

[worm]

Understand that you're discussing 'owe' in a moral rather than legal sense. I'd say that you owe her f**k all as she nullified the foundations of your social contract when she slept with other people.

It sounds like a hold. She's probably trying to keep you from moving on by keeping your thoughts in the past about you and her. Either that or you're doing it. Pay no attention to it - it's over.

[worm]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RF-kezGy8Vs Edited February 25, 2011 by worm

[rabid]

but morally, she shouldn't have shagged around. so it's equal stevens!

[funkymunkey]

Understand that you're discussing 'owe' in a moral rather than legal sense. I'd say that you owe her f**k all as she nullified the foundations of your social contract when she slept with other people.

It sounds like a hold. She's probably trying to keep you from moving on by keeping your thoughts in the past about you and her. Either that or you're doing it. Pay no attention to it - it's over.

[funkymunkey]

Obviously I don't know the circumstances (and neither do you) but that's a very one sided view to be taking.

[worm]

I reckon I owe her nothing in either a legal or moral sense. I paid for stuff that she didn't so we're probably even, it was never a loan, and she treated me like shite towards the end. I really have no interest in whatever she's doing, and if she's doing it to keep the past alive then that's her lookout-I'm doing pretty damn well with my life. At present I'm just ignoring it, if her and her family keep hassling me I'm tempted to get the police involved. If she wants to pursue it further than that she can take me to a small claims court and I'll wipe the floor with her.

[worm]

Obviously I don't know the circumstances (and neither do you) but that's a very one sided view to be taking.

[rabid]

How so? I couldn't have treated her that bad or she wouldn't have called up eight months after we broke up begging me to take her back, saying she wanted to get married. Honestly she was a dick.

[funkymunkey]

I'm in no position to judge, I was just pointing out that neither are they.

[worm]

I'm in no position to judge, I was just pointing out that neither are they.

[jump]

I reckon I owe her nothing in either a legal or moral sense. I paid for stuff that she didn't so we're probably even, it was never a loan, and she treated me like shite towards the end. I really have no interest in whatever she's doing, and if she's doing it to keep the past alive then that's her lookout-I'm doing pretty damn well with my life. At present I'm just ignoring it, if her and her family keep hassling me I'm tempted to get the police involved. If she wants to pursue it further than that she can take me to a small claims court and I'll wipe the floor with her.

[lost]

its normal isnt it?, no couple splits things exactly 50/50, it would be like you asking for the money back for everything you paid for food, drinks, club entry, concert tickets, birthday and Christmas presents etc.. I've come out of relationships on both ends and its just one of those things, you generally don't go into one expecting to come out in a certain financial position