Owing an ex money?

[RABun]

its normal isnt it?, no couple splits things exactly 50/50, it would be like you asking for the money back for everything you paid for food, drinks, club entry, concert tickets, birthday and Christmas presents etc.. I've come out of relationships on both ends and its just one of those things, you generally don't go into one expecting to come out in a certain financial position

[feral chile]

I reckon I owe her nothing in either a legal or moral sense. I paid for stuff that she didn't so we're probably even, it was never a loan, and she treated me like shite towards the end. I really have no interest in whatever she's doing, and if she's doing it to keep the past alive then that's her lookout-I'm doing pretty damn well with my life. At present I'm just ignoring it, if her and her family keep hassling me I'm tempted to get the police involved. If she wants to pursue it further than that she can take me to a small claims court and I'll wipe the floor with her.

Edited February 25, 2011 by feral chile

[The Nal]

Have you thought about murdering her and burying her corpse under your house?

[gratedenini]

Lots of different takes so far.

Two angles..legally--you owe nowt. Morally..well thats totally up to you, and from the way you are putting it..you are telling us you owe nowt.

Thats the simplicity of it.

As someone has pointed out.. its never 50/50--theres always one partner who feels disappointed more than the other.

Theres nowt like £££ to cause further anguish for broken relationships.

I can vouch for that.

If you love her.. give her the brass--if yer dont--dont.

den

[The Nal]

Theres nowt like £££ to cause further anguish for broken relationships.

[gratedenini]

Apart from your record collection.

[TheGayTent]

Knob her younger sister or post naked pics of your ex on the internet.

[The Nal]

SORE POINT Nalbandian. Lets not go there....grrrr!

den

[Ed209]

You owe her jack shit, diddly squat, f**k all. Legally and morally.

This is what couples do when they live together. They financially look out for eachother and take joint responsibility. Unless she was chalking it up each month when you where together and explaining that you one day had to owe it back to her, then its not even a loan. Its not like the money was being spent on assets. Its money which has been lost in the ether. It was effectively an investment on her part in your relationship. Tough shit on her she f**ked it up.

Edited February 25, 2011 by Ed209

[The Nal]

You owe her jack shit, diddly squat, f**k all. Legally and morally.

This is what couples do when they live together. They financially look out for eachother and take joint responsibility. Unless she was chalking it up each month when you where together and explaining that you one day had to owe it back to her, then its not even a loan. Its not like the money was being spent on assets. Its money which has been lost in the ether. It was effectively an investment on her part in your relationship. Tough shit on her she f**ked it up.

[Ed209]

Yeah. AND she was f**king about too, gobbling down sack froth like it was going out of style. The f**king cheek! Tell her to go f**k herself.

[The Nal]

You can be sure if it was the other way round the ladies on here would be out in force

"you don't owe him shit girlfriend" click fingers "a man who cheats on his women and then asks for money should have his bits dipped in molten lead" click fingers "mmmm mmmm"

[gratedenini]

Never got them back then Denilson? We're any of them any good?

[The Nal]

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No! and of course... they were good to me--and thats all that counts eh.

Have you voted yet Nalskicorsikoff?

den

[Guest musiclove123]

If your ex of two years says that you owe them money for rent from when you lived together where do you stand legally?

If you were never married and they were scum of the earth and repeatedly cheated on you.

Cheers

[Guest musiclove123]

Understand that you're discussing 'owe' in a moral rather than legal sense. I'd say that you owe her f**k all as she nullified the foundations of your social contract when she slept with other people.

It sounds like a hold. She's probably trying to keep you from moving on by keeping your thoughts in the past about you and her. Either that or you're doing it. Pay no attention to it - it's over.

[Guest musiclove123]

Its something my ex likes to bring up occasionally - all the times he's bought tickets for things, or dinner and especially when we were first together and he paid the rent. I paid all the utilities and bought the food and cooked and cleaned but that doesn't count apparently. He doesn't expect the money back but he definitely has a feeling that he was gipped as he puts it. Even though i walked out with nothing other than my books and clothes and laptop and he has everything else including things that i bought over the years.

Edited February 25, 2011 by musiclove123

[rexclark]

We pay everything down the middle, but if one of us is short the other pays a bit extra. Now if anything ever happened and we split I would never ask for any cash back and neither would she. When your together you spend money, it's not your money it's both of your money. there's no way I'd give the money back unless it was a loan, any other circumstances and you just take the blow and move on.

[Purple Monkey]

If your ex of two years says that you owe them money for rent from when you lived together where do you stand legally?

If you were never married and they were scum of the earth and repeatedly cheated on you.

Cheers

[worm]

That's messed up. Seems like he had you around as some sort of bizarre human insurance policy. That is really pathetic.

I'd say you owe him nothing, but as we all know from the entire history of the human race: what is moral is rarely in harmony with what's legal. I'd still say you can drop him like the sack of shit he is.

[Purple Monkey]

'She'

Edited February 25, 2011 by Purple Monkey

[Greeny_Musicchild]

Like I said, it depends what you mean by "owe". It's not like it was a loan, it was just covering some rent for a place that we both lived in. Legally I couldn't claim housing during that time as we both lived there and she earnt more than enough to pay the rent.

[gratedenini]

Look--this isn`t about money--hard £££s--its about hurt.

Nobody in their right mind could be logically thinking they are legitamtely owed brass...but--she`s hurting.. thats the thing.

And thats when yer start grasping at stuff.

You be hurting too.

Remember nuzzlin into the small of her back and slippin your hand round to cup one of her amples?

Aye. An tha.

Y`know---remember--when a woman stops nagging--thats the time she stops loving yer. And she`s nagging yer.

A friend of mine.. very pragmatic, once gave me this advice....

"Den--to her--yer a bastard--you were a bastard--you are a bastard--and you`ll always be a bastard-so you may as well be a bastard with a fatter wallet"

I wish I had taken that advice.

den

[rachbon]

When you're living together as a couple, the bills need to be paid and it doesn't matter how much each person pays. You can't always pay equal amounts and that's just part of being in a relationship and living with someone.

You don't owe her a penny and this would still be the case even if she hadn't cheated. Rather than ignoring her, just tell her to f**k off.