Wedding dilemma - your input appreciated

[luca_79]

Hi, so ive been invited to two weddings, both on the same day, in about 6 weeks, they are a fair distance apart so its not possible to do the first half of one and the second half of the other. 'Wedding A' and 'wedding B' if you will.

Wedding A is a great pal from schooldays, do not see him much over the last 10 yrs or so, but there will be some old school buddies there which will be fun. Wedding will be a ceremony in a hotel and pretty standard reception i think, the more formal/straight laced of the two. Carraiges at midnight. Wedding B is a great pal more from the last 10 yrs or so, I will know a lot more people there, it will be much a more alternative/unique affair, more colouful and creative, prob ourdoor ceremony + party, bonfire til the early hours etc. with camping.

I have RSVP'd a yes to weeding A about a month ago as the date was saved by them early in the year and on the basis that i couldn't make stag party A but i could stag party B, i thought its only fair that i regretfully forfeit wedding B.

However, after stag B last weekend, had such a good time that although of course i'd love to be at both weddings, wedding B shades it in my mind in terms of the event itself.

My head (+morals?) say stick with wedding A, my heart says wedding B, in which case of course i need to phone up pal A and make my excuses following my recent RSVP.

So, hopefully you can help me with some objective thoughts on this dilemma.....what would you do?:

- Wedding A or B?

- If B, how would you explain to pal A?

Cheers!

[gooner1990]

You sure you've posted this on the right forum?!

[In transit]

Is this an extended metaphor for the Elbow/Janelle Monae clash?

[Josepipe]

Which one is related to Glastonbury Festival in any way? I'd go for that one.

[russycarps]

which bride has the biggest tits? go to that one

[Karmann]

hahaha - class! The randomness is funny!

[fraz]

You need to apply the drunken Police cell method.

Whichever person would not be in the cell next to you after a drunken night out is the wedding not to go to.

Simples

[Huzey-Wuzey]

lol I like how it seems the decision is based on your fun rather than going for the people who are actually getting married. But the fact that you have said B has been a great mate for the past decade and A, a decade ago, it's great to keep friends but B sounds more the friend now? Not a clue for what you might tell A though. Also how bothered do you think they will be?

[luca_79]

You sure you've posted this on the right forum?!

[luca_79]

Is this an extended metaphor for the Elbow/Janelle Monae clash?

[justanotheronethen]

If it's that much of a dilemma don't go to either. Instead stay at home, get stoned and have a really nice w*nk

[luca_79]

You need to apply the drunken Police cell method.

Whichever person would not be in the cell next to you after a drunken night out is the wedding not to go to.

Simples

[luca_79]

lol I like how it seems the decision is based on your fun rather than going for the people who are actually getting married. But the fact that you have said B has been a great mate for the past decade and A, a decade ago, it's great to keep friends but B sounds more the friend now? Not a clue for what you might tell A though. Also how bothered do you think they will be?

[Abster]

Is this an extended metaphor for the Elbow/Janelle Monae clash?

[MyTwistedWords]

to be honest your good friend is B, A is an old friend that you dont really see anymore... go to B and write to tell A you've double booked and sadly cant make it.

[greenfairy43]

to be honest your good friend is B, A is an old friend that you dont really see anymore... go to B and write to tell A you've double booked and sadly cant make it.

[TheGayTent]

Has to be A.

[t8yman]

B. simple.

[bunique]

How far apart are we talking?

[luca_79]

How far apart are we talking?

[feral chile]

I think you should stick to your word, as you've already agreed to A and they asked first. That way you're not letting anyone down.

And if Friend A has any mutual friends with B, or you ever let slip that you chose Wedding B over Wedding A, especially after agreeing to A first, then A will be terribly hurt and offended, at you dumping them when a better offer came along, especially something as personal to them as their wedding, and it's just not worth it.

yeah I know that's a dull answer, but it's what I really think.

Edited May 23, 2011 by feral chile

[luca_79]

thanks everyone for your wise counsel - i'm going to B. a bittersweet feeling, as it would have been if i'd stuck with A!

If it's that much of a dilemma don't go to either. Instead stay at home, get stoned and have a really nice w*nk

[feral chile]

I win!