Glastonbury or Bestmates Wedding

[Sasperella]

So this year one of our normal Glastonbury crew decided to pick Glastonbury weekend to have a "wedding celebration" in Italy (her and her fiancee live in Hong Kong). She announced this about 2 weeks before T-Day, despite being part of our Glastonbury WhatsApp group where the rest of us had all agreed to get try for ticket.... As we're not that close and a few of my other, closer friends are also going to Glastonbury and not invited to the wedding, I have opted for Glastonbury. However, if she was my best friend even if she had committed a massive howler with the dates, I'd probably still go to her wedding.....

Interestingly though, one of my Glastonbury crew also has a friend that invited her to a wedding over Glastonbury, when she knew it was in the pipeline.....when my friend explained about the clash, her mate changed the date of the wedding so she could be there. Which is lovely ?

The fiance thing adds a different dimension. But presumably she knows that your friends wedding is important too? Sounds like something you both need to talk about together.

Also, where is the wedding? Is there any way you can do both (Mad as I know that sounds)?

 

[gherkin8r]

What about second best friends? Or your bebo top 16?

[ITK19889]

On 3/10/2019 at 9:23 AM, Sasperella said:

So this year one of our normal Glastonbury crew decided to pick Glastonbury weekend to have a "wedding celebration" in Italy (her and her fiancee live in Hong Kong). She announced this about 2 weeks before T-Day, despite being part of our Glastonbury WhatsApp group where the rest of us had all agreed to get try for ticket.... As we're not that close and a few of my other, closer friends are also going to Glastonbury and not invited to the wedding, I have opted for Glastonbury. However, if she was my best friend even if she had committed a massive howler with the dates, I'd probably still go to her wedding.....

Interestingly though, one of my Glastonbury crew also has a friend that invited her to a wedding over Glastonbury, when she knew it was in the pipeline.....when my friend explained about the clash, her mate changed the date of the wedding so she could be there. Which is lovely ?

The fiance thing adds a different dimension. But presumably she knows that your friends wedding is important too? Sounds like something you both need to talk about together.

Also, where is the wedding? Is there any way you can do both (Mad as I know that sounds)?

 

It’s not a easy one for either of us as my GF is good friends with the bride aswell but we have really been looking forward to the 50th even more so it’s my GF 30th...

We have a big group of friends which makes my decision a tiny bit easier as my friend won’t be left in the Lerch on his day with only two missing if we end up with the golden ticket, We spoke for awhile before they signed on the dotted line, of our intentions that we really really have planned to go to Glastonbury in 2020 if it wasn’t my GF 30th or they married this year I’d reluctantly give up my ticket but when you have your heart set on something for such a long time sometimes I suppose you have to be selfish.... I enjoy weddings don’t get me wrong but over the last 4 years what I remember most and look back on with a smile is our times at Glastonbury it’s in a different league for us... My GF would step aside but she always does put everyone else first so this time she can put herself first for once & have the 30th she always wanted I sound like we have tickets already haha ?

[Sasperella]

11 hours ago, ITK19889 said:

I sound like we have tickets already haha ?

Haha, yes, and I imagine T-Day 2020 being a right closer fuck for everyone concerned. 

My friend that's getting married  told us about two weeks before T-Day. I told her we'd try for tickets and then decide what to do based on whether we got them or not. Hopefully your friend won't mind you waiting until October 2019 to let him know!

[Becks12]

My best friend from school organised her wedding around my festival calendar! Now thats a good friend.

[gigpusher]

I love my husband dearly but I'd have missed my own wedding for Glastonbury. Any best friend of mine would know that booking a wedding Glastonbury weekend would mean that I wouldn't be there. They know how much it means to me. If you add in that it's your fiance's 30th and where she wants to be is Glastonbury then I'd say it's an easy choice. 

 

I'd also predict next year could be very hard to get tickets for so you could try for tickets and if you don't get them tell your mate that you'll be self-sacrificing and miss out on what you really want for him.  

[hannahlmoore]

Horrible dilemma I know but it's not worth losing a best mate over, there will be other festivals but best mates are one in a million. Well, unless they are shit, and in that case still go.

[the beadle]

Go for it, your mate may well end up getting married again one day (it happens) but there’ll never be another 50th anniversary Glastonbury. And if he does get married again tell him to do it at Christmas, the selfish bugger.