singles thread

[minute5072]

You could all meet up in a field somewhere. You never know what it can lead to.

[rabid]

not this again

[greeneyes1980]

I'm sure I've stayed there after a gig before and it's been grand!!

[raspberryswirl]

Sorry but I'm very, very happy and it wouldn't have happened without this thread.

[woot]

Don't cry Honey...

Sad fact is it either works for him and you give him the mighty hornage, or it don't... nothing you can do about it but enquire, and move on if he doesn't want you like that.

We all have experiences, but no one here knows how HE feels about you. You have to ask, and if he says "no" take it on the chin and move on.

Not easy, or fair. But then who said life was? Not me.

Good luck though.. we're always here to vent at if you need it!

[Katster]

Sorry but I'm very, very happy and it wouldn't have happened without this thread.

[Katster]

Yesterday I was described by a colleague as a 'fell walker'. I made sure I'd not misunderstood her and she'd actually called me a 'fella walker'

[Lithium05]

Still single here

But confidence is improving. I'm just about getting used to the idea that the 4 stone I lost last year means that I might have more of a chance of not being maced if I start chatting to a girl on a night out.... not that that ever happened before!

Annoying thing was, as I posted earlier in this thread, last friday night when I was getting a little bit of attention from a girl on the dancefloor at a club. All of my coupled off mates and their partners suddenly appeared and started pushing me towards her saying "go for it" and the like. It was like being at a f*cking school dance

[Katster]

Still single here

But confidence is improving. I'm just about getting used to the idea that the 4 stone I lost last year means that I might have more of a chance of not being maced if I start chatting to a girl on a night out.... not that that ever happened before!

Annoying thing was, as I posted earlier in this thread, last friday night when I was getting a little bit of attention from a girl on the dancefloor at a club. All of my coupled off mates and their partners suddenly appeared and started pushing me towards her saying "go for it" and the like. It was like being at a f*cking school dance

[bealster]

Hello everyone!

thought id post this for a laugh...im going speed dating in 2 weeks time and have NEVER done it at all, me, a work mate and his friend are going for a laugh!

Any tips for anyone whos done this?

Feel a bit sad doing it really...but its all good practise and a laugh I guess!

[Katster]

Hello everyone!

thought id post this for a laugh...im going speed dating in 2 weeks time and have NEVER done it at all, me, a work mate and his friend are going for a laugh!

Any tips for anyone whos done this?

Feel a bit sad doing it really...but its all good practise and a laugh I guess!

[Goblinz]

Hello everyone!

thought id post this for a laugh...im going speed dating in 2 weeks time and have NEVER done it at all, me, a work mate and his friend are going for a laugh!

Any tips for anyone whos done this?

Feel a bit sad doing it really...but its all good practise and a laugh I guess!

[precious_lillywhite]

Hello everyone!

thought id post this for a laugh...im going speed dating in 2 weeks time and have NEVER done it at all, me, a work mate and his friend are going for a laugh!

Any tips for anyone whos done this?

Feel a bit sad doing it really...but its all good practise and a laugh I guess!

[omskus]

Cheers for replying there. Thing is, he was the one who bought all of this up and made the first move, I've had nothing but good signs that he is into me (signs I'll leave to your imagination but I'm sure you can guess!!) and now all I can think is he's thought too much about this and is panicking, or yeah, maybe he did think he felt that way about me but actually doesn't.

Thing is, I've known him for years and I know he's not an asshole; he's the nicest bloke in the world and I can't believe he would have done anything to risk our friendship had he not been 100% certain of how he felt. The reason he turned me down the second time I asked him out years ago was because he was looking for more commitment and didn't think that was my thing, not because he didn't want to go out with me. But he didn't tell me that until last weekend. And I never asked him out again because I just thought he didn't feel the way I did. I just can't help feeling we may have ballsed up big time and we're left with just the waste of it all

Oh well, he's meant to be calling me tonight we shall see. At least if it's not good I can skive off work tomorrow, everyone thinks I'm ill anyway. Quote "I've never seen you looking that bad, ever". Nice.

[luckysalt]

Im here, there everywhere at the moment

Im just hanging in there and taking each day as it comes

The worst part is something felt so right then it went and then you start things over but theres other things in the way, and you can wait, but you worry will it ever get right again? and you think should I just walk away from this, but you have these feelings and you think if you have these feelings they're here for a reason and you must try

I've done a lot of thinking and spent a lot of time in the last few months, and I've grow up a lot about relationships, and I just want to get to a point again, where everything is fine, looks like its gunna be a while though!

and of course no-one knows what im on about because I haven't spoken about what has happened but basically I split up with someone I was madly in love with in October because it had gone horrid and I haven't seen that person since, but in the last few weeks I have and since its been up, down, up, down, and we were gunna give it a go, then we weren't , then we were, then we weren't, then yesterday she said she needs time, and she'll ring me in a couple of weeks, then today she rings me and has changed her mind and im seeing her saturday, so confusing!

but as I say, I haven't got down, im staying optimistic whatever happens, and im just gunna be as happy as possible, and if it doesn't work out it doesn't and if it does it does

ha ha lifes so strange

[luckysalt]

thank god Ive got efests to distract me though!

[brighteyes]

I'm still single, of course, and happy to be so. I don't want a girlfriend at the moment.

However, I would quite like to pull this weekend. My chinchilla got put down this week and I reckon I can tell the story of her sad death to a girl and she will pull me out of pity. I'm normally quite good at getting the sympathy pull.

[bunique]

I'm still single, of course, and happy to be so. I don't want a girlfriend at the moment.

However, I would quite like to pull this weekend. My chinchilla got put down this week and I reckon I can tell the story of her sad death to a girl and she will pull me out of pity. I'm normally quite good at getting the sympathy pull.

[brighteyes]

Aww Sorry to hear that!

[Katster]

Aww Sorry to hear that!

[Goblinz]

Sounds like she's being dragged in. Even went for it after he said that was the technique was going to use!

[Karlhippy]

new girly past few weeks - seeing how it goes

[brighteyes]

Watch out Bunique, he's only trying to pull you, or get the sympathy pull, or something!

[woot]

whats happened "woot"?

[omskus]

Well he called me on Monday and we chatted for about an hour. Not as bad as I thought- well, I had thought the whole day he was going to say he thought he liked me but didn't like me after all. He'd spoken to a mate about it all, who told him that it sounded like he was getting overwhelmed because this has all happened rather quickly, because he's used to being on his own and didn't know if he wanted a relationship he was now panicking. Which he said he agreed with.

Then we talked about the past and I set him straight on some stuff; mainly about why I ended things with him in the first place, and why a few years back I wanted to try again. It sucks because we spent a lot of the time assuming what the other one felt; he thought I was just going for a "safe" option and didn't want to be single when I'd really thought hard about asking him back out because it risked our friendship and I could've asked any ol bloke out if I'd not wanted to be single. I just assumed he didn't feel the way I did and never actually asked him the reason why he said no.

But yeah, it was good to get everything clear and in the open; from now he's going to think about if he wants this (oooo keep everything crossed!!) and if so then it's going to be a take things slowly deal. I haven't heard off him since Monday, but I'm leaving the contacting to him. If he wants time, then time it is because I really really really do not want to muck this up. I feel I'm at the last chance saloon with this one.

Complicated eh? Made even more so by me having a "secret identity" as it were, but the ex knows I come on here and he knows nothing about the new guy. He wouldn't get nasty, but just whiny and stuff which I could do without honestly. But I am a singles thread regular normally