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Lithium05 Newbie

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I've just had a realisation and wondered if anyone else has experienced similar.

I can't remember any of my friends breaking up with anyone or being dumped themselves*.

Pretty much all of my friends have married, or are intending to marry the first girlfriend they've ever had and for me that doesn't seem right. I've known most of them since school and we weren't exactly the "popular kids" so my theory is that they still see themselves as social outcasts that are unlikely to get any attention from anyone else for the rest of their lives so want to settle down with the first girl that touches their penis!

The most recent case is someone who met a girl in August proposed in December and is getting married next year. Now I could take that if it hadn't completely changed his outlook on socialising and plans for the future, a while ago a group of us decided to start saving to go travelling around America when we're 25, now that's all out the window in favour of buying houses and f*cking couples holidays.

I just find it infuriating that these people are willing to completely change their outlook on life due to being severely trapped under the thumb.

Another interesting fact, I only have 1 friend, 2 at most out of a group of 15+ that would be willing to go for a night out without their partners.

Think I'd better leave it there before I lose it completely :P

*bar 1 who broke up with someone because he didn't want to be in a relationship, then about a month later was back in one with a different girl.

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I've just had a realisation and wondered if anyone else has experienced similar.

I can't remember any of my friends breaking up with anyone or being dumped themselves*.

Pretty much all of my friends have married, or are intending to marry the first girlfriend they've ever had and for me that doesn't seem right. I've known most of them since school and we weren't exactly the "popular kids" so my theory is that they still see themselves as social outcasts that are unlikely to get any attention from anyone else for the rest of their lives so want to settle down with the first girl that touches their penis!

The most recent case is someone who met a girl in August proposed in December and is getting married next year. Now I could take that if it hadn't completely changed his outlook on socialising and plans for the future, a while ago a group of us decided to start saving to go travelling around America when we're 25, now that's all out the window in favour of buying houses and f*cking couples holidays.

I just find it infuriating that these people are willing to completely change their outlook on life due to being severely trapped under the thumb.

Another interesting fact, I only have 1 friend, 2 at most out of a group of 15+ that would be willing to go for a night out without their partners.

Think I'd better leave it there before I lose it completely :P

*bar 1 who broke up with someone because he didn't want to be in a relationship, then about a month later was back in one with a different girl.

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I just find it infuriating that these people are willing to completely change their outlook on life due to being severely trapped under the thumb.

Another interesting fact, I only have 1 friend, 2 at most out of a group of 15+ that would be willing to go for a night out without their partners.

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sifi Newbie

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It might be the snowball effect you've described. Mind, it bucks the trend, fewer and fewer people are getting married according to the office of National Statistics, anyhow.

I do find it odd folk won't go out without their partners, but maybe, as I just said, they enjoy their partner's company enough to want to be with thenm all the time?
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All my best friends seem to be in serious relationships now. I used to live with 4 guys, one of them has already moved in with his girlfriend of 6 years (fair enough), one is moving in with his girlfriend of 1 year this summer, and I think another one is contemplating moving in with his girlfriend too. And the other guy has moved away. And my ex-girlfriend, who is my best friend, is moving in with her new boyfriend in the summer too.

One of my flatmate's girlfriends suggested I move in with them, so it would be my two current flatmates and their girlfriends... and me. How horrible would that be!?

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At least you're getting an invite! All of my friends are looking at buying properties and not renting and I'm stuck in a position where I want to move in to a flat with some friends because I can't afford to get a place by myself (neither can they if they're honest) but no one is interested because they're "In it for the long haul"

I do have one mate who wants to move into a flat with some mates but in his own words "his girlfriend won't let him, because renting is throwing money away that could be saved for them to get a house together" :P

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When you find a single individual that you want to be with forevermore, then you'll know WHHHHHHYYYY.

It's an expression of love in front of your friends and family. I think it's rather touching. Hence why there is one of my wedding photos and my personal profile. Taken just by my Mum's orange grove. Which proved most useful in making buck's fizz.

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My Dad married my mother after meeting her for the first time six weeks earlier. I believe in the concept of true love. Maybe this accounts for some of your friends.

Although clearly it can't account for all of them. How strange not to have played the field before settling down.

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Things have changed alot though since then. My parents have always believed that sex before marriage is a no go, and I understand this used to be the way most people felt years ago and would therefore make a quick marriage more attractive. Nowadays it isn't considered an issue so it means that couples can live together "in sin" without the need for marriage.

Personally I'm getting sick of mates trying to pressure me into settling down, getting a house, wife, kid, whatever. I've got nothing against marriage, as long as I don't have to settle down. If I did then it would be forced thing and would end in disaster or me getting a hair cut which I'm not prepared to risk.

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Things have changed alot though since then. My parents have always believed that sex before marriage is a no go, and I understand this used to be the way most people felt years ago and would therefore make a quick marriage more attractive. Nowadays it isn't considered an issue so it means that couples can live together "in sin" without the need for marriage.
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I was 18 when I met my husband and we were engaged 5 days later. We separated over 3 years ago after 23 years of marriage which isn't bad going these days!

I think you just know when it feels right. When you want to spend your time with that person regardless of obstacles in your way :P

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I was with someone from being a teenager, got engaged, had the house built, got married, moved into together, pleasentville, my neigbours were all in the 50's, cleaning the cars on a Sunday and I thought fook this, just rebelled and drove my husband insane, never coming home, laways getting wrecked and party time at our house all the time, he wanted the easy life I was married at 22 and seperated by the time I was 23. I then met someone who was a complete party animal, never took himself seriously, would invite anyone and everyone to our house for a full wekend party and we argued all the time, drove me mad, we seperated, get on really well now and 10 years after my oriignal marriage, even though i do not need a ring on my finger and I have good friends and am very busy and happy I think about the me and another doing the garden and my man carving the Sunday roast, he he.

My mum and dad met when they were 16, married at 19, he died at the age of 53, should be their Ruby anniversary next year but she always says she will never get with another man and will keep her wedding rin on until the day she dies, really in love and had a good partnership, he went to the pub and got pissed a coupl oe ftimes a weel, she never worked, rasied the kids, did the dinners and it worked for them.

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