singles thread

[rabid]

You do seem to be using any excuse to put the boot in here though.

[Rufus Gwertigan]

I'm sure this lady will understand that there are often difficulties with that area. Obviously you don't want to scare her with some of the more difficult aspects but I wouldn't worry too much about telling her a little about that situation.

[Goblinz]

I had a long conversation about this with her last night. She was really pushy about it as well. and wouldn't let it drop, so I ended up telling her, warts and all. After more questions she wants to meet the kids, and I said no. I explained that the kids are all over the place at the moment due to problems with their mum, my eldest is having to apply for his own contact order to see his sisters as mum insists the boyfriend is present and won't allow him to visit his sisters with me. I am just starting to get on properly with my daughter and my other son, but he has issues and apart from work I spend my time with him, and that isn't including my own court stuff. I said that I wanted to know where this was going before I throw another person into the mix.

She went mad. Now we have had long conversations at work, and spoke on the phone for endless hours, but we have only spent a day and a night together. I explained that for me my children will always come first, especially after their mum putting her boyfriend first, and it's important for them to see it. As such I wanted to get all my court stuff out of the way, so we are all a little relaxed. I have invited her for a meal at mine, knowing my son is out for the night. But my gut is telling me I am in too deep already, I only wanted a bit of fun and to see where it leads

I think I am going to call it quits and then wait until all the court stuff has run its course before putting myself out there. Also it is festival season, and even I manage to get some 25% of the time. 8 festivals so the odds are good

[Goblinz]

What other reason is there?

Without sexual attraction, it's just friendship.

[worm]

But with only sexual attraction, it's not a relationship.

[worm]

I don't think you can say that without defining what "hot" is first.

Edited April 21, 2009 by worm

[sifi]

Of course it is. A sexual one.

[Katster]

My definition of relationship in this context clearly differs from yours. Shooting your filthy muck and leaving fifty quid on the bed-side table by your definition is a damn relationship.

[Rufus Gwertigan]

My definition of relationship in this context clearly differs from yours. Shooting your filthy muck and leaving fifty quid on the bed-side table by your definition is a damn relationship.

[worm]

My definition of relationship in this context clearly differs from yours.

Edited April 21, 2009 by worm

[worm]

He is right, there is such a thing as a sexual relationship. However, I don't think funkymunky would be pouring his heart out over someone he simply thought was hot. I'm sure even worm recognises the difference.

[Radar]

Nobody wants to tackle my question on why sexual fidelity matters then?

I won't ask again, just smugly conclude that most of you aren't as liberal as you sometimes make out

[Katster]

Yes. Clearly reeeeeeeeeeeaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaallllllllllllllyyyyyyyyyyy hot. I understand completely.

[Rufus Gwertigan]

Nobody wants to tackle my question on why sexual fidelity matters then?

I won't ask again, just smugly conclude that most of you aren't as liberal as you sometimes make out

[Radar]

I don't wish to share my man with someone else and I don't want him to share me. It's nothing to do with possession as far as I'm concerned, it's just what I consider a relationship to be....exclusive.

But, when single I couldn't care less who any man I slept with was also sleeping with, and I'd take offence if they questioned me about my nocturnal activities.

Plenty of people enjoy open relationships though, I've never tried one personally.

[Peevis]

Nobody wants to tackle my question on why sexual fidelity matters then?

I won't ask again, just smugly conclude that most of you aren't as liberal as you sometimes make out

Edited April 21, 2009 by Peevis

[Katster]

I can sympathise with that, indeed it's generally my view. But WHY do you consider a relationship to be essentially exclusive? That is the question.

Right. That bit I don't really understand, but never mind, I don't think it matters to the main issue?

I genuinely don't know how many people do, though - very few that I know. Are you saying that you're not unreceptive to the idea of them? (that's not me hitting on you btw )

[sifi]

What is a sexual relationship if not sexual?

If it's not sexual then it's just friendly. I wouldn't want a relationship with someone I'd come to call significant if there wasn't sexual attraction. That would be shit.

Edited April 21, 2009 by sifimaster

[rabid]

I'll try anything once.

[worm]

I quite clearly stated that a relationship build only on sex wasn't a relationship as I define it.

Edited April 21, 2009 by worm

[Goblinz]

I quite clearly stated that a relationship build only on sex wasn't a relationship as I define it.

I've put it in bold this time round on the off chance it might f**king sink in this time.

Open relationships? Get to f**k. Radar, you'll be coming round my house and nicking my cheese next

[Radar]

It matters 'cos promises you make to other people are still important, even to us Liberals.

[Radar]

Open relationships? Get to f**k. Radar, you'll be coming round my house and nicking my cheese next

[sifi]

You said it wasn't a relationship if it was sexual. Yes it is. A sexual relationship.

[sifi]

I think I'd be pretty disturbed if a woman I was interested in said that was how it should be - but what I'm questioning is why that is the reaction - and it seems a pretty ingrained one.