singles thread

[worm]

And no - I don't. Explain to me why it is bigoted to think the relationship that works for me is better for me than ones that don't work for me.

[worm]

I think you must be doing it wrong mate.

[worm]

Insecurity as in - fear of being abandoned for another lover? Or fear that another lover might be "better" - which is also an infringement upon one's pride - I suppose it is all about the self - the urge to reproduce is another element of that.

How do you mean, a lack of conscious thought? And if it is subconscious, how could it be combatted?

[Peevis]

Thinking too much never got anyone laid, or reproduced my friends.

It's a feeling, not a thought process. Always was, always will be!

[worm]

Thinking too much never got anyone laid, or reproduced my friends.

It's a feeling, not a thought process. Always was, always will be!

Edited April 22, 2009 by worm

[sifi]

Oh, there's a right way to sex is there? I see.

[Radar]

If there is, I'm fairly sure it doesn't involve just shaking hands.

[sifi]

The original comment he made was "Why is a handshake different to sex?"

I'm not playing dumb at all. I think Worm and I have discussed the difference between sex and making love previously.

[worm]

The original comment he made was "Why is a handshake different to sex?"

I'm not playing dumb at all. I think Worm and I have discussed the difference between sex and making love previously.

Edited April 22, 2009 by worm

[sifi]

So why do you place such intense symbolic significance on sex and not a hand shake in relation to love?

Edited April 22, 2009 by sifimaster

[worm]

Because I had great sex last night and am still feeling a bit hot under the collar?

I don't think I've shaken my wife's hand since the interview.

Edited April 22, 2009 by worm

[sifi]

Now we're getting somewhere. So the pleasure makes you feel intimate. So because of your desire for the intimate pleasure, you wish no other man to experience it? Lest, betrayal rear forth its ugly head.

Essentially, the intimacy found in sex makes notions of love manifest themselves. I haven't had that yet mate. I'm still searching for it. What happened in your case is that you found it and once you did you turned your back on the misfortunates that have not found what you were fortunate enough to find.

Therefore, the fear of loss and betrayal makes a man oppose other single males.

Edited April 22, 2009 by sifimaster

[worm]

I don't have fear of loss or betrayal.

Edited April 22, 2009 by worm

[sifi]

Then why do you fear someone having sex with your partner?

Your conscious mind may not, but your sub-conscious cleary does. Someone could have sex with your partner. This is a reality. You will no doubt deny that, but your sub-conscious can't and it will manifest through other rationales i.e. I don't believe in infidelity, I believe in love, sex without love is just 'firing off a load' and such like.

Edited April 22, 2009 by sifimaster

[Radar]

Now we're getting somewhere. So the pleasure makes you feel intimate. So because of your desire for the intimate pleasure, you wish no other man to experience it? Lest, betrayal rear forth its ugly head.

[worm]

Are you saying my wife is a whore?

c**t.

Edited April 22, 2009 by worm

[Radar]

Are you saying my wife is a whore?

c**t.

[worm]

Yes but all of that is open to challenge.

- Why should it be seen as "betrayal" if another is allowed to sample this intimate pleasure? Is that not selfish?

- Why should anyone seek to control their preferred partner in such a way that they can only experience "intimate pleasure" with each other?

- Is it not about control, power relations, sacrifice, denial et cetera?

(Still just thoughts - I can't commit to really believing the above)

[worm]

Calm down, of course he isn't saying that.

I think your reaction does display how sensitive and emotive an issue this is though.

[sifi]

Calm down, of course he isn't saying that.

I think your reaction does display how sensitive and emotive an issue this is though.

Edited April 22, 2009 by sifimaster

[Katster]

Sifi> How would you feel about your wife getting it on with another woman?

[sifi]

Sifi> How would you feel about your wife getting it on with another woman?

Edited April 22, 2009 by sifimaster

[Katster]

First Culty calls my other half a whore, and now this? Katster, please. I don't like speaking for her and you seem a pleasant enough person, but after the last time a lady made a pass (at the both of us) I think it's fair to say she wouldn't be fussed.

[Katster]

I think it's fair to say she wouldn't be fussed.

[Radar]

Exactly the point I raised about conscious thought overcoming the sub-conscious.

Edited April 22, 2009 by Radar