singles thread

[worm]

Seriously though, what are you calling "twisted shit" and why?

[sifi]

Exes still suck though. Burn them, I say.

[Radar]

Because of the pretense that civility is some utopian bubble of candy floss. It makes sane men like Peevis turn to its opposite when real civility does exist, it's just being betrayed by muppets.

[worm]

I have to say of my serious exes, I parted on good terms with about half of them, and am friends with a number to this day.

Granted the ones that I'm friendly with do tend to be on different continents.

[worm]

What do you mean by "civility" and why is it a bad thing?

[Radar]

Honourable, noble, curteous etc.

I'm saying that the false notion of civility (being together forever and ever and living happily ever after with someone who loves you more than life itself) is reponsible for turning people into liars, exactly as Peevis states. But I'm also saying that instead of f**king civility off in full, Peevis should consider that there are those among us that are a tad more realistic.

[Peevis]

sane men like Peevis

[Katster]

So false honour, nobility and courtesy are a chimera? That would be fair - if it was false!

I think there remain plenty of people who can find everything they want in a single partner.

[Radar]

My problem has been finding someone who has found everything they want in me

I think I bore people

[worm]

So false honour, nobility and courtesy are a chimera? That would be fair - if it was false!

[Radar]

Oh, just read what I said and either agree or disagree. All I'm bothered about is my mis-spelling of courtesy.

[Katster]

Aww don't put yourself down.

I may have struggled with that too, thinking about it, at times...

"Boring" doesn't sound like the Kat we know on here!

[Radar]

Thanks, not that I was fishing for an ego boost

[Peevis]

And i haven't f**ked civility off in full at all.

I personally consider the honesty in my position far more civilized than certain delusions being bandied about.

I'm not being rude, simply honest. The fact is a few of you lucky people will make it, but not all. And of those of you who do will be unhappy doing so. If you or your squeeze are under 25 your chances are about one in ten of dying with each other I believe. That's just the facts people. Sad but true.

What I find uncivilized is selling the lie. It's all far more about marketing products and a lifestyle than anything else. I hope you get what you are after, I trully do. Actually I hope you can trully distinguish what you are after also 'cos that's the hard bit. I know damn well I haven't got there yet. And I also remember a time when I was just as convinced as you people that I did.

Love would be easier, less painfull and more honest and so much more successful if we coudl address these issues head on rather than facing it like some twelve year old schoolgirl who's just met take that. Nothing wrong with romance at all. It has it place and should be encouraged. People in love should be romantic. But honesty will get you both further and ultimately make you happier in the long run.

I don't think many are capable of honesty. It's not so much lies as simple brainwashing and wishful thinking tthat they too can find the one and spend the rest of their lives blissful. In a world where only 10% get that, I just think ignoring the facts makes things worse.

Edited November 12, 2009 by Peevis

[Radar]

I personally consider the honesty in my position far more civilized than certain delusions being bandied about.

[worm]

I agree that false civility is bad, but genuine civility is good.

[pinback]

Cool as that's what I was saying. Where we'd probably differ is that you've probably got some idealistic utopian notion that you apply it to, whereas I don't. Take each moment as it comes and learn from it.

[worm]

And what have you learnt from the efestivals discussions forum?

[pinback]

That my suspicions are correct about masses of people and what happens to your mind.

[sifi]

Cool as that's what I was saying. Where we'd probably differ is that you've probably got some idealistic utopian notion that you apply it to, whereas I don't. Take each moment as it comes and learn from it.

[Radar]

Although he hasn't got quite the same flair for tautology as you.

[greenfairy43]

I'm not being rude, simply honest. The fact is a few of you lucky people will make it, but not all. And of those of you who do will be unhappy doing so.....

People in love should be romantic. But honesty will get you both further and ultimately make you happier in the long run.

[worm]

(Even?) in my hungover state that is a highly amusing comment!

[Radar]

I didn't get it. What's wrong with me?

[worm]

*pat on the back* nothing fella, nothing...