Testicular cancer, Glastonbury & guilt

[glastofun]

This time yesterday I was looking forward to getting the line up and then a few gigs before Glastonbury, then the festival itself. Now, since this morning, I'm pretty certain my boyfriend has testicular cancer.

He's been to an emergancy doc (not his own GP) who said he thinks it is cancer, but his own GP needs to refer him to have a scan. He wont be able to see his GP until tues at the earliest with it being bank holiday etc.

I've been with him for a few years, and obviously my priority is him, not a festival. If it is cancer, and he needs treatment, it could be over Glastonbury. I can't help hoping that it isn't around that time and I can still go. Does this make me a selfish cu*t? He's totally not into Glastonbury and has never been and never intended to go this year either.

He would never expect me to cancel it anyway, I'm going to a gig this fri and he wouldn't hear of me cancelling it. I'd be really keen to hear anyone's thoughts on this. I don't really wanna trouble anyone we both know as obviously the concern is him not my selfish thoughts regarding Glastonbury!

[Storm_NL]

I'd like to offer my sympathies.

But nobody can help you with your own feelings of guilt. You must do what you think is right.

It looks as though you may be trying to gain enough appropriate responses so you can justify to yourself going to Glastonbury whilst your boyfriend is having treatment.

This is the kind of major decision you need to make by yourself, and I'm sure that whatever you decide, your friends/family/boyfriend will be supportive of you.

[glastoman417]

I'd like to offer my sympathies.

But nobody can help you with your own feelings of guilt. You must do what you think is right.

It looks as though you may be trying to gain enough appropriate responses so you can justify to yourself going to Glastonbury whilst your boyfriend is having treatment.

This is the kind of major decision you need to make by yourself, and I'm sure that whatever you decide, your friends/family/boyfriend will be supportive of you.

[Stuzo]

I don't really have any experience or medical knowledge of this, but having read about peoples experiences on other forums in the past the reaction of the first doctor saying that he thinks it is cancer (presumably with just a physical inspection) sounds very unusual. I get the impression that doctors are usually very keen to point out that there are many different things it could be and that cancer is just one of them (Cysts, benign growths, etc). It sounds like either your boyfriend has ended up with a very negative doctor or his worry about the situation has resulted in what the doctor said to him being twisted when he retold it to you. In short it sounds like it is far too early to be certain about anything and that the best thing you can do is remain positive and pragmatic.

[scappaflow]

I think if it was me I'd try my best to go.

Yes, this can be very serious, but can also be a fairly routine treatment and hopefully everything could be sorted out in a few weeks.

Obviously you will know more after the scan and what the timescales etc will be like, but be positive.