Getting over losing someone close

[Goblinz]

At least they can put him to rest now.

I know there's nothing much I can do to console you right now, but stick with it, you'll get through.

[Shinny]

Well they've found his body, which is a good thing (although it doesn't feel like it at the mo).

Edited October 23, 2009 by Shinny

[Steve P]

Well Joe is finally being laid to rest today. Their having a family funeral this afternoon and then a thanksgiving ceremony tomorrow. I going to be doing a tribute to him at the ceremony - just hope I hold it together ok. Can't believe he's been gone for 5 weeks now, still hurts just as much.

[Katster]

Hope it goes as well as can be expected

[swede]

I lost my best friend 10 years ago when I we were both 17, two months before his 18th birthday, he'd never had a chance of getting in pubs before his 18th birthday so we both couldnt wait for his birthday bash. He was a himaphiliac so his health was up and down but it suddenly dropped and he never recovered, me and my friends were in bits when we heard the news he'd died. I thought my life was over, but I do believe the best thing to do is too try and get on with things and live your life day to day, I know its cliche but it does get better with time. I found that changing the direction of my life slightly after his death helped, for a little while I hung around more with my work collegues as they didnt have the emotional attatchment to Tony that my usual friends did, I found the bit of space really helped.

Last year I also lost my suddenly nanna to Cancer, my nanna was an angel on earth, def the most generous caring person I'll ever meet. I was very close to her, probably closer to her than my mother, it was like another best friend dieing. I lfound trying to let all the grief out at the funeral really helped and then I took her wake as a celebration of her life and how great she was, it really helped the healing process for me.

Most important is just to remember the great times you had with these people, its the life and moments you had with them that count.

Edited November 20, 2009 by swede

[Gingerbond]

Well Joe is finally being laid to rest today. Their having a family funeral this afternoon and then a thanksgiving ceremony tomorrow. I going to be doing a tribute to him at the ceremony - just hope I hold it together ok. Can't believe he's been gone for 5 weeks now, still hurts just as much.

[Steve P]

Feels a bit odd bringing this thread back up. Anyway I just wanted to thank everyone again for your words; they meant a lot at the time and still do now. Glastonbury is going to be quite strange for me this year, Joe is the person I associate with the site more than anyone else. I think i'll find it tough at times but I'm really looking forward to meeting some of you guys (even the Tottenham supporting types) at the various meets to make some new Glasto friends.

Thanks,

Steve.

[Langdale Wolf]

Feels a bit odd bringing this thread back up. Anyway I just wanted to thank everyone again for your words; they meant a lot at the time and still do now. Glastonbury is going to be quite strange for me this year, Joe is the person I associate with the site more than anyone else. I think i'll find it tough at times but I'm really looking forward to meeting some of you guys (even the Tottenham supporting types) at the various meets to make some new Glasto friends.

Thanks,

Steve.

[big joe]

A good friend of mine lost a 7 year battle with stomach cancer a few weeks ago. He was 32. Although i suffered the death of my Dad when i was 21, he was pretty old and it was rather sudden. My mate dying was the first time i had actually watched someone gradually die over a number of years and it was absolutely horrific. The dull cliches are true i imagine. Time dulls the pain. Try your best to remember the good times and the rest will follow.

Edited June 18, 2010 by big joe

[markeee]

Feels a bit odd bringing this thread back up. Anyway I just wanted to thank everyone again for your words; they meant a lot at the time and still do now. Glastonbury is going to be quite strange for me this year, Joe is the person I associate with the site more than anyone else. I think i'll find it tough at times but I'm really looking forward to meeting some of you guys (even the Tottenham supporting types) at the various meets to make some new Glasto friends.

Thanks,

Steve.

[Steve P]

1 year on today. Miss you so much buddy, love ya.

[Paul ™]

1 year on today. Miss you so much buddy, love ya.

[feral chile]

A good friend of mine lost a 7 year battle with stomach cancer a few weeks ago. He was 32. Although i suffered the death of my Dad when i was 21, he was pretty old and it was rather sudden. My mate dying was the first time i had actually watched someone gradually die over a number of years and it was absolutely horrific. The dull cliches are true i imagine. Time dulls the pain. Try your best to remember the good times and the rest will follow.

[Steve P]

Have a full on, both arm, back slapping man hug

Edited October 18, 2010 by Steve P

[spwan-of-the-devil]

Only just Seen this and im So sorry its happened and hope you are ok.

[jacketspud]

For some reason when I tried to send a post to this a few days ago it diddnt work but I thought I would give it one last shot - Just wanted to say that I as have my family have been really affected by the totally unfair accident that took my newphew Joel - officially he died on the 14th but I like to think he was gone at the time it happened (hopefully instantly) on the 13th as no one desrves to suffer all that.

Joel came to a few festivals with us and he took up diablo and became a master! He took one of my festival jumpers for his own too but I am quite happy about that. I like to think that the festival scene did influence him in someway - he was a good boy/man and just days away from his 18th Birthday - He did go well loved and he enjoyed the small amount of life he lived - thats all anyone can hope any one says about us when we go right? - his funeral is tomorrow - Ciao Joel !See You One Day!

[Paul ™]

For some reason when I tried to send a post to this a few days ago it diddnt work but I thought I would give it one last shot - Just wanted to say that I as have my family have been really affected by the totally unfair accident that took my newphew Joel - officially he died on the 14th but I like to think he was gone at the time it happened (hopefully instantly) on the 13th as no one desrves to suffer all that.

Joel came to a few festivals with us and he took up diablo and became a master! He took one of my festival jumpers for his own too but I am quite happy about that. I like to think that the festival scene did influence him in someway - he was a good boy/man and just days away from his 18th Birthday - He did go well loved and he enjoyed the small amount of life he lived - thats all anyone can hope any one says about us when we go right? - his funeral is tomorrow - Ciao Joel !See You One Day!

[Steve P]

For some reason when I tried to send a post to this a few days ago it diddnt work but I thought I would give it one last shot - Just wanted to say that I as have my family have been really affected by the totally unfair accident that took my newphew Joel - officially he died on the 14th but I like to think he was gone at the time it happened (hopefully instantly) on the 13th as no one desrves to suffer all that.

Joel came to a few festivals with us and he took up diablo and became a master! He took one of my festival jumpers for his own too but I am quite happy about that. I like to think that the festival scene did influence him in someway - he was a good boy/man and just days away from his 18th Birthday - He did go well loved and he enjoyed the small amount of life he lived - thats all anyone can hope any one says about us when we go right? - his funeral is tomorrow - Ciao Joel !See You One Day!

[greenfairy43]

I hope you & your get through today ok. Thinking of you.

[Katster]

A friend of mine died over the weekend. He was hit by a car whilst on his bicycle and was killed instantly. We weren't close friends but he's the first friend I've lost and he was the best friend of a very close friend of mine.

He was a wonderful man and will be sadly missed by all who knew him. I wanted to write about it happening but on his facebook page or elesewhere just didn't seem appropriate, I hope people won't mind me posting here.

The last thing I ever said to him was "you could have told me you weren't coming on my birthday weekend you turd, it won't be the same without you!!!". Plus, I never did get round to giving him his "What The f**k?!" board game back

[greenfairy43]

A friend of mine died over the weekend. He was hit by a car whilst on his bicycle and was killed instantly. We weren't close friends but he's the first friend I've lost and he was the best friend of a very close friend of mine.

He was a wonderful man and will be sadly missed by all who knew him. I wanted to write about it happening but on his facebook page or elesewhere just didn't seem appropriate, I hope people won't mind me posting here.

The last thing I ever said to him was "you could have told me you weren't coming on my birthday weekend you turd, it won't be the same without you!!!". Plus, I never did get round to giving him his "What The f**k?!" board game back

[Steve P]

A friend of mine died over the weekend. He was hit by a car whilst on his bicycle and was killed instantly. We weren't close friends but he's the first friend I've lost and he was the best friend of a very close friend of mine.

He was a wonderful man and will be sadly missed by all who knew him. I wanted to write about it happening but on his facebook page or elesewhere just didn't seem appropriate, I hope people won't mind me posting here.

The last thing I ever said to him was "you could have told me you weren't coming on my birthday weekend you turd, it won't be the same without you!!!". Plus, I never did get round to giving him his "What The f**k?!" board game back

[llcoolphil]

A friend of mine died over the weekend. He was hit by a car whilst on his bicycle and was killed instantly. We weren't close friends but he's the first friend I've lost and he was the best friend of a very close friend of mine.

He was a wonderful man and will be sadly missed by all who knew him. I wanted to write about it happening but on his facebook page or elesewhere just didn't seem appropriate, I hope people won't mind me posting here.

The last thing I ever said to him was "you could have told me you weren't coming on my birthday weekend you turd, it won't be the same without you!!!". Plus, I never did get round to giving him his "What The f**k?!" board game back

[Katster]

Thank you.

I just can't believe it. I know that's what people always say but because I didn't see him all that often I still feel like I'm going to see him again in another few weeks or months or whatever. Then I remember he's gone and I get upset, but I know he wouldn't want us to be upset, and that makes me even more upset. Hopefully those feelings will pass when he gets put to rest.

I really wish I could stop torturing myself with all the ridiculous comments posted on the news article here too but I can't

I'm so tempted to reply but past experience (largely here) tells me to ignore it and not to fuel the fire.

[RABun]

Thank you.

I just can't believe it. I know that's what people always say but because I didn't see him all that often I still feel like I'm going to see him again in another few weeks or months or whatever. Then I remember he's gone and I get upset, but I know he wouldn't want us to be upset, and that makes me even more upset. Hopefully those feelings will pass when he gets put to rest.

I really wish I could stop torturing myself with all the ridiculous comments posted on the news article here too but I can't

I'm so tempted to reply but past experience (largely here) tells me to ignore it and not to fuel the fire.