Things that annoy you ?

[Rufus Gwertigan]

I've refused medication in the past, because it was addictive. I don't know how I've escaped this long, because I'm a bit obsessive over stuff. I can never just buy one thing, I have to buy several with slight variations. So I avoid things like tattoos and piercings, because I know I'd get extreme.

The drugs/booze thing, I'm not sure about. Wouldn't it depend on who you socialise with? I can avoid alcohol a lot easier with some friends than others. I can get my arm twisted fairly easily lol

[Rufus Gwertigan]

Tonight I'm a little down in the dumps and that has annoyed me as I really don't want to be there. I'm fed up of wallowing in that general area. I desperately need to find some alternative things to do than to stay in front of this computer screen all evening every evening.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

It's hard to know what to do when you are in that situation. There is always the healthy advice of go for an evening walk or start yoga or something, but fuck that for a game. I used to go to the cinema a lot. Seemed a little weird to the kids, going on my own but I was happy enough.

[MrZigster]

Sounds like you may be developing a problem. The things you describe are the way I started going off the rails. I'm a firm believer in the hair of the dog at times but having cheeky little drinks before work, not getting into work etc all lead one way. I was lucky at work because I had a colleague (who was and is a personal friend) who covered the bases for me a lot. If it wasn't for him I'd have been sacked for sure. I'm only saying this as friendly advice because I'd hate anyone to have to go through the maelstrom of madness that is alcoholism. It slowly creeps up on you so watch out for it.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Thanks Yog. I totally get the creep thing (hence the "Ooops") and am always using that argument to younger people. Nobody (well hardly anybody) intends to get themselves an addiction I believe. It starts as every payday. Then it's every Saturday. Then Friday as well. Then may as well go out Sunday lunchtime too. Before you know it your partying every night you can. (I feel I should add this makes me sound more of a booze hound than I actually was. Strictly a late evening thing for me. (Can't say the same for smoking).

I had a heart attack three years ago and had really reigned in to a certain extent that aspect of my lifestyle. I know some of the reasons for my current slide.

Noisy neighbours overnight heating thing primarily started it (alcohol is a great sedative). The usual I hate the drudgery of work thing. And, see the last couple of posts I made in this thread prior to my alcohol rant. Particularly 14th July.

That is the main reason I am getting super blotto right now I think and why I spent this morning reading the last years worth of posts in the Singles thread, Yog

We have in common (at least) similar ages and length of time being single AND(our posts have just over lapped as I type) spending too much time on the computer .

[MrZigster]

Having your mouse (or possibly your whole set up) die on you when you;re just getting going. Really annoying. This could take hours to post. Typing while it's good.

[Rufus Gwertigan]

I'm happy to read that you can see and identify the creep. I'm not saying people shouldn't have a drink or even a big drink everynow and again. It's when you start drinking when you wouldn't normally have done so when the slide sets in eg in the morning before work.

So your a similar age to me and also have been single for years. Perhaps we should set up a support group for hopeless cases!

Hope you don't have a sore head in the morning. Regards.

[emilychon]

• Jonathan Ross

• X Factor

• People who stand on the left hand side of escalators even though people are waiting for them to walk up them

• Twats who don't move down the carriages on trains blocking people trying to get on

• Nobheads on xbox live swearing at people thinking they're hard, or other online twats who have 'BNP' as their clan tags. Well done. How controversial.

• People spitting

• Rude people

• Clive Tydesley

• People continually swearing in front of kids

• The same mates being VERY late every time we're meeting up. 8.30 means 8.30, not 9.30 or 10. Inconsiderate c**ts...

• American Football

• Kaiser Chiefs/Kasabian

• Glory hunting football fans and their identikit families - in Dudley

• The wonderful rail service in Great Britain

• Snow and the hysterical overreaction to it - particularly in the media

• Sepp Blatter

• Bolton

• Christmas lights before December the 1st

• My job

• People's atrocious moods when Christmas shopping. Just go on Amazon if you're a miserable c**t who hates people - like me.

• People who sample my ale, say 'actually, that's really nice' then go back to their piss-tasting Stella because they don't want to look like an untrendy Real Ale drinker

• Ignorant arses who moan about Glastonbury being 'shit' because of one headliner they don't like

• Fussy people who complain about the slightest thing, even when there really isn't ANYTHING to complain about

• As a learner driver - complete f**ktards who think they're big and clever when they cut you up, overtake, ANYTHING to get past you

• Ross Noble and Dylan Moran - I really do want to like them like practically everyone else, but I honestly don't get what is remotely funny about them. What am I missing?

More later. I'm in a very grumpy mood today.

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How could you hate Jonathan Ross? He's funny. Better than Letterman.

[AcademicPistol]

So I avoid things like tattoos and piercings, because I know I'd get extreme.

[Purple Monkey]

Facebook. Updating a status is like speaking a silent, crowded room, it makes me very anxious and annoyed most of the time. As a result nothing interesting is ever said and what little of it actually is of any use usually gets ignored or dismissed amongst the endless dirge of baby photos, movie spoilers, worthless opinion and hipster-filtered photos of plates of food.

Bollocks to it all, time to delete.

Edited July 31, 2012 by Purple Monkey

[Rufus Gwertigan]

The status updates for the Olympic teams are a little annoying. Years of no mention of sport and now people are full of praise for the mens cheese rolling team.

[LondonTom]

The status updates for the Olympic teams are a little annoying. Years of no mention of sport and now people are full of praise for the mens cheese rolling team.

[kaosmark2]

I was really aiming at the availability and how you access your drug. But it does raise the point that as an addict who decides to stop, whether drugs or alcohol, there are going to be tremendous changes that you are going to have to make to your lifestyle and socialising, at least for the first few months. Going to the pub or parties, in my view, should be off the cards for over 3 months. But people find that they become social pariahs anyway. For some reason people are affronted when someone decides to stop drinking, and there can be loads of pressure placed on yourself. I amazes me how other people think you are judging them by you not drinking etc. For me the whole way I socialised had to change, as it does for many people. If you are getting support professionals will tell you not to put yourself in a vunerable position. You crave alcohol when you smell it? I know I will go to the pub with my mates. Seems a little obvious what the result will be.

I think this is why alcohol is so difficult as well. More and more activities include the availabilty of alcohol, and many of your "friends" are unwilling to go without even for a few hours FFS most cinemas have bar. Drugs on the otherhand are not generally taken in "everyday" situations, and I feel that if you decide to stop taking drugs it is easier to avoid many of the social situations.

[kaosmark2]

Facebook. Updating a status is like speaking a silent, crowded room, it makes me very anxious and annoyed most of the time. As a result nothing interesting is ever said and what little of it actually is of any use usually gets ignored or dismissed amongst the endless dirge of baby photos, movie spoilers, worthless opinion and hipster-filtered photos of plates of food.

Bollocks to it all, time to delete.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

This is part of why I'm afraid to give up alcohol. I can cope without the drinking, what I can't cope without is the social situations in which I drink. It doesn't help that I've gone back to be an undergraduate as a mature student either, trying to settle into a new life for myself where every social activity is 18-21 year olds getting hammered then going clubbing. Without it, I believe I'll end up socially isolated and even more lonely, spending even more time on my computer.

[kaosmark2]

Not sure if it's a university that you are at or not. If so, isn't there societies and clubs you could join where the emphesis will not being on how much drink you can get down your neck. I did just over a year of a university course before I threw the towel in on it. I do regret not taking the time to involve myself in some of the clubs though during my time there.Just a thought.

Failing that you might want to look up the local 'Spice' group in your area. It's an activities group.

[feral chile]

Not sure if it's a university that you are at or not. If so, isn't there societies and clubs you could join where the emphesis will not being on how much drink you can get down your neck. I did just over a year of a university course before I threw the towel in on it. I do regret not taking the time to involve myself in some of the clubs though during my time there.Just a thought.

Failing that you might want to look up the local 'Spice' group in your area. It's an activities group.

[kaosmark2]

Cheers for the advice peeps. To be fair I'm not that mature at 23, but 5 years older than other freshers still felt a bit too much last year.

I'll check out the mature students society next year though. I'll probably get the opposite feeling, but it's always worth a go.

Edited July 31, 2012 by kaosmark2

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Yeah, a university. I've just finished my first year, and I'm in the kitesurfing society, but while it's great fun getting out on the water, the social side and evenings on trips are all boozing. I'm in a few others as well, but I dropped several due to other people being tossers, and most groups still meet in pubs even if they're not heavy drinking clubs.

[kaosmark2]

That's the dilemma I suppose in that many groups will meet in pubs. Doesn't mean you have to drink alcohol though (if you are strong enough not to). The only exception I can think of is if there's a local temperance society! lol

[Rufus Gwertigan]

Well no, but some brought up the "perceived as judgmental" thing earlier, and there's the difficulty in that I LIKE beer. I'm occasionally stubborn and stay off if there's nothing but main brand lagers and ciders, but I find that you come across a bit twattish if it's the first time you're meeting someone.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

and stay off if there's nothing but main brand lagers and ciders, but I find that you come across a bit twattish if it's the first time you're meeting someone.

[kaosmark2]

Isn't that your perspective rather than anyone else's? I could meet someone who doesn't drink and my first thoughts aren't going to be that he/she is a twat. My thoughts may eventually lead me in that direction but that will be steered by what they have to say rather than their alcohol intake.

[feral chile]

Cheers for the advice peeps. To be fair I'm not that mature at 23, but 5 years older than other freshers still felt a bit too much last year.

I'll check out the mature students society next year though. I'll probably get the opposite feeling, but it's always worth a go.

Edited July 31, 2012 by feral chile