Things that annoy you ?

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I meant the "I only drink xyz" does. I know it's not a universal perception, but I've found people calling me up on being pretentious for only liking certain pints.

[eFestivals]

the olympics.

when do they finish?

[philipsteak]

I don't drink. Haven't for about 5 years now. Used to drink quite heavily, big nights out etc, but started to not like it. It affected my mood too much, not when I was drinking, I was a pretty happy drunk, but if I was goin through a fairly heavy patch of going out, it was the time I wasn't drinking. Plus the hangovers do get worse as you get older. The pros no longer outweighed the cons as far as I was concerend

Tried cutting down, but it always crept back up again. So I just stopped.Was hard at first (especially as I was living in a ski resort/party town) but after a while it just became normal. People who'd try to get you to drink eventually got bored of hassling. New people/friends of friends are always suprised and sometimes ask quite personal questions without realising (for all they know I was a raging alcoholic or something) but rather than hassling, most are actually quite interested in the whys and more imprtantly the how. And you always end up hearing about that one time, usually in a January, when they gave up for 2 and a half weeks.

Non-alcoholic beers have improved so much. I didn't bother for years cos of memories of Kaliber, but then someone gave me a Becks Blue, which tastes pretty much just like Becks (OK not the best beer in the world but perfectly drinkable). Erdinger is probably my favourite, technically has 0.5% but legally still counts as alcohol free. Bitburger's OK. There's a load of really good German ones. Only ones I've had which I've found undrinkable are Kaliber and Bavaria.

[AcademicPistol]

the olympics.

when do they finish?

[rachbon]

People who seem to think that iphones are the only smartphone you can get.

I just got a samsung galaxy S3, a few people at my work (who all have iphones) had genuinely never heard of a samsung galaxy, and actually asked me "if i can get apps and stuff." Of course I fucking can.

Clearly having the apple logo is the most important thing to them.

Also, another person in my work who wants to cancel her holiday next week because she can't cope with missing Geordie Shore, the thought of missing it is making her depressed. Apparently.

No wonder I feel like just walking out of here most days and not coming back.

[Rufus Gwertigan]

People who seem to think that iphones are the only smartphone you can get.

I just got a samsung galaxy S3, a few people at my work (who all have iphones) had genuinely never heard of a samsung galaxy, and actually asked me "if i can get apps and stuff." Of course I fucking can.

Clearly having the apple logo is the most important thing to them.

Also, another person in my work who wants to cancel her holiday next week because she can't cope with missing Geordie Shore, the thought of missing it is making her depressed. Apparently.

No wonder I feel like just walking out of here most days and not coming back.

[AcademicPistol]

Also, another person in my work who wants to cancel her holiday next week because she can't cope with missing Geordie Shore, the thought of missing it is making her depressed. Apparently.

Edited August 1, 2012 by AcademicPistol

[rachbon]

The thought of her makes me depressed. Not only due to the ridiculous attachment to empty shallow programming but because you can easily catch up with all the stuff you want with Internet and Sky + so easily these days.

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The thought of her makes me depressed. Not only due to the ridiculous attachment to empty shallow programming but because you can easily catch up with all the stuff you want with Internet and Sky + so easily these days.

[The Nal]

Sunday 12th August. I am gonna miss it personally.

[AcademicPistol]

because they're following trends and don't have their own personality.

[AcademicPistol]

Me too. Swimming has been fantastic.

Although I dont live in London so cant comment on the traffic, security etc

[LondonTom]

Me too. Swimming has been fantastic.

Although I dont live in London so cant comment on the traffic, security etc

[Rufus Gwertigan]

The use of the word 'hero' is really pissing me off. At the moment it seems everyone is a bloody hero from soldiers to sportsmen. Then they go and say something like "but the real hero today was...." So what are you saying. Everyone is is just pretending to be a hero? Make your fucking mind up.

Edited August 2, 2012 by Rufus Gwertigan

[eFestivals]

the feckin' jetstream, festival-ruining, bloody horrible wet thing. :angry:

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Making myself unhappy through my own stupidity, which seems to know no bounds.

[feral chile]

Making myself unhappy through my own stupidity, which seems to know no bounds.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Then turn it around. If you've made mistakes, learn from them. And stop beating yourself up, you'll only lower your mood. Regret's only useful to inform us we need a different approach.

I know this sounds like a platitude, but honestly, only look backwards long enough to take what you need to move forwards.

[feral chile]

Thanks feral. You've hit the nail on the head on all counts - (1) I need to learn a lesson. And I need to learn it soon. (2) Beating myself up is actually getting me nowhere but unhappiness (3) I like and understand what you mean when you mention to only look back long enough to take what you need to move forwards.

I've actually been in this state of mind for at least a year and a half now. I know that I should essentially do as you say as time's ticking away. I have a mate who's a doctor coming up from London to see me later this afternoon. He's going to have stern words as he knows what's put me in this rut. I just hope I listen to him and you and not just stay in this state which I can only describe as an existence. I think I'm going to get a calender and get a regime going so that I can tick off everyday that I've made progress. Thanks once again for offering wise guidance.

Edited August 3, 2012 by feral chile

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I used to suffer from really bad depression, and it took me a long time to get over it. The position I'm in now is one of watchfulness, because if I can stay positive, I can prevent a further slip into the pit.

What I found useful was having several positive mantras. When the fear got to me, I'd say them repeatedly. And over time, a long time, they did help.

So I know sometimes when people tell you to try to focus on being positive, it can seem really trite. But it can start to make a difference, little by little, because you're training your brain to avoid the negative commentary that's spiralling you down.

Here's an article that explains what happens in the brain - I find it a bit patronising, but it's relatively free of jargon:

http://www.psycholog...rd-in-the-world

[feral chile]

I'm not depressed as such. I do suffer from depression but this isn't as bad as depression. This is more like living in a limbo land where nothing changes and I don't see the joy in life - or at least I'm increasingly seeing less of it. I know that the solution lies within me. I've just got to stop wallowing in my own misery and crack on with things. As you mention I think reversing my thoughts to more positive ones are a step I can take. I also need to get back to the gym as I haven't done any exercise for a very long time. I used to go swimming in the morning before work and then the gym and swimming in the evening too. I felt quite good about myself then. Probably the natural endorphines. I'll start back there on Monday I think. Fresh week fresh start. I can't go there this weekend as I have two 'heavy' nights out to contend with and I'll not feel like going after those.

So to summarise I'm going to give myself a good kick up the arse to wake myself up to my situation. I'm going to think positive thoughts and I'm going to get fit. If I achieve those ( or when I achieve them) I'll be much happier. In the mean time I'll try and be less miserable on these boards than I have been of late. Watch this space.

[rachbon]

People who just get everything in life handed to them on a plate and have no appreciation for the things that they have or the things people do for them.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

I think you're at the stage I find myself at often. The above advice will be easier for you then - it can work when you're in the throes of a severe depression, but it's obviously much easier when you're in a negative frame of mind/flattened mood (maybe mild depression)

I'm lucky that one of the perks of working in a Contact Centre is being trained in positive language techniques, so it comes naturally to me now.

For example, death anxiety = survival instinct.

You're feeling dissatisfied, so you brain's already telling you to get your arse in gear and do something about it - you're halfway there!

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

People who just get everything in life handed to them on a plate and have no appreciation for the things that they have or the things people do for them.

[feral chile]

Yes, my spirit has already lifted somewhat from when I came out with my original statement early this morning. Plus it's nearly the weekend (although it may as well be the weekend for the amount of work I'm going to do today!). Plus I'm going out with a friend tonight then another friend tomorrow night. That makes a nice change from simply staying in on my own as per usual. See positive thinking, I'm at it already.