singles thread

[metallimuse]

Tell me about it mate.If she has f**ked someone then thats one thing,but why come and tell it at work?She must of known it would get back to me.

I personally dont think she did it but im not into mindf**ks like that.I really like her though.

[feral chile]

Tell me about it mate.If she has f**ked someone then thats one thing,but why come and tell it at work?She must of known it would get back to me.

I personally dont think she did it but im not into mindf**ks like that.I really like her though.

Talk to her. Tell her what you've been told and give her a chance to put her side of things. Then take it from there.

Edited December 4, 2010 by feral chile

[metallimuse]

Already asked about it through a text but she just didn't text back.She's working tomorrow so should be interesting.

[feral chile]

Already asked about it through a text but she just didn't text back.She's working tomorrow so should be interesting.

She's not going to want to discuss this in a text. Though she could have said she'd discuss it with you properly in person. Mind you, it's not an easy topic to be discussing in work either. maybe arrange some quiet time alone?

Edited December 5, 2010 by feral chile

[metallimuse]

Mate I dunno.my head says walk away but my heart says different.I'm not a hopeless romantic by any means and I know we've only being seeing each other casually for a month but I really thought she could be the one.

I've never felt that way before.I mean,I've had relationships but could never see the future,with her I can.

[feral chile]

well try not to judge her yet till you find out what she has to say. Things can get twisted with hearsay. And try not to be too confrontational when you ask her about it, or she'll just get defensive.

[rexclark]

I'd say that you should let her give her side of the story. I'm sure you'll be able to tell her feelings by her reaction. I really hope it goes well for you.

well try not to judge her yet till you find out what she has to say. Things can get twisted with hearsay. And try not to be too confrontational when you ask her about it, or she'll just get defensive.

Excellent advice.

[rachbon]

Spent the past month with this girl from work who i really like.Spent afew nights together and really connected but she wanted to take things slow and told me why,because her ex got her pregnant,dumped her then she had a miscarraige,and I was totally cool with that given the circumstances.

She told me last Saturday that she was ready to take a chance and see what could happen with us.She then went on holiday to Leeds for a week in which we text everyday.

She came back yesterday and told one guy at work she shagged 3 blokes while away and told my best mate at work that she f**ked some guy on Monday because they were snowed in.2 days after she told me she wanted more.

I can't get my head around it.I know she likes to run her mouth as she's told me before she has at work for whatever reason but why do it now?She must of known that people would tell me as everyone knows about us at work?

Help!

someone could have made it up, or the story has been twisted.

can only repeat what others have said, talk to her and find out the truth.. if she did sleep with all these guys or she's just talking pish, even although you do really like her, you need to consider if you'll be able to trust her or not.

[metallimuse]

Well,so far she's completely blanked me.Not even said 'hello'.

[jump]

Well,so far she's completely blanked me.Not even said 'hello'.

Text ot in person though? As you can't do something like that over a text as it'll put her on the defensive regardless of why.

[metallimuse]

In person.

She said she shagged her "mates with benefits" and as we aren't officially together she didnt see what was wrong.I asked how did she think that made me feel her telling everyone else and then before i got an answer work commitments took over.

I can't believe how insensitive she's being and shes telling people that I'm the one being weird about it.

[lolbeck]

In person.

She said she shagged her "mates with benefits" and as we aren't officially together she didnt see what was wrong.I asked how did she think that made me feel her telling everyone else and then before i got an answer work commitments took over.

I can't believe how insensitive she's being and shes telling people that I'm the one being weird about it.

It sounds to me like she's not worth your time and effort.

Since I'm back, everything's gone tits up with the housemate and it's all gotten a little bit awkward, which is entirely my fault. It would seem that university is a lot easier when you don't care about anyone but yourself.

[kingjamma]

It sounds to me like she's not worth your time and effort.

Since I'm back, everything's gone tits up with the housemate and it's all gotten a little bit awkward, which is entirely my fault. It would seem that university is a lot easier when you don't care about anyone but yourself.

Hate to say it, but it's not just university but life in general. A lesson that I learned many years ago, which sucks cause I hate thinking like that.

[brighteyes]

In person.

She said she shagged her "mates with benefits" and as we aren't officially together she didnt see what was wrong.I asked how did she think that made me feel her telling everyone else and then before i got an answer work commitments took over.

I can't believe how insensitive she's being and shes telling people that I'm the one being weird about it.

I reckon she's intentionally trying to put you off her, for whatever reason.

Since I'm back, everything's gone tits up with the housemate and it's all gotten a little bit awkward, which is entirely my fault. It would seem that university is a lot easier when you don't care about anyone but yourself.

More details plz.

Last night I asked Zooey if we were bf/gf or whatever, her response was as non-committal as my attitude towards it! Didn't see her for almost two weeks due to me being stranded in Scotland, and I did miss her a bit. But mostly I missed the doinkage. Think we're just going to carry on dating for a while, nothing official yet...

[lolbeck]

More details plz.

Some girl slept in his bed on Thursday. Just slept, to save her sleeping on the sofa. I made a mountain out of a molehill. He got awkward around me. Mutual friend told us both we need to properly talk about it, which we haven't done. Everything's still a little off. He obviously just wants to be friends and I'm not really in the right mindframe to deal with that. All a bit shite.

EDIT: She slept in his bed again last night. Then stayed here most of the day today. I phoned my mum and cried at her about it. I hate men.

Edited December 7, 2010 by lolbeck

[feral chile]

I reckon she's intentionally trying to put you off her, for whatever reason.

That did cross my mind. Either that, or provoke a commitment. It seems almost rebellious.

[jump]

Made a really stupid rookie mistake this morning by talking to a girl and made her laugh and smile but then didn't ask for her number, f**k!

[rexclark]

Some girl slept in his bed on Thursday. Just slept, to save her sleeping on the sofa. I made a mountain out of a molehill. He got awkward around me. Mutual friend told us both we need to properly talk about it, which we haven't done. Everything's still a little off. He obviously just wants to be friends and I'm not really in the right mindframe to deal with that. All a bit shite.

EDIT: She slept in his bed again last night. Then stayed here most of the day today. I phoned my mum and cried at her about it. I hate men.

He's clearly a c**t. Sad to say it but move on. You deserve better.

Edited December 7, 2010 by rexclark

[lolbeck]

He's clearly a c**t. Sad to say it but move on. You deserve better.

That's exactly what my mum said. Sucks :/

[amy246]

Well i had another nice chat with fit postie earlier (he's grown stubble and looks all rugged and fit) but am still kicking myself that i lost his number (along with most of my contacts) when my phone broke and forgot to mention it to him so now i can't text him! I just need to find out more about him - such as whether he is single or not! And instead i find myself agreeing to meet another guy tomorrow - he's nice but has a bit of an ass obsession

[feral chile]

Some girl slept in his bed on Thursday. Just slept, to save her sleeping on the sofa. I made a mountain out of a molehill. He got awkward around me. Mutual friend told us both we need to properly talk about it, which we haven't done. Everything's still a little off. He obviously just wants to be friends and I'm not really in the right mindframe to deal with that. All a bit shite.

EDIT: She slept in his bed again last night. Then stayed here most of the day today. I phoned my mum and cried at her about it. I hate men.

Yeah, this is the thing. he probably really thought you were just friends who slept together. So he didn't think he was doing anything wrong having other friends who he could sleep with.

He thought he was on to a good thing. No strings sex. And now he's found out there's no such thing when a woman's involved. (except in rare circumstances).

To be fair, if he's made it clear he had no commitment to you, then you had the choice to go along with it or say no. It's clearly not what you wanted, but if he made himself clear, that's not really his fault. He just doesn't understand women very well.

[spwan-of-the-devil]

Made a really stupid rookie mistake this morning by talking to a girl and made her laugh and smile but then didn't ask for her number, f**k!

Same here and even she told me she was single after finding out that we had alot in common, ah well added eatch other on FB and have spoke to eatch other since and she was really hot!

Lolbeck - You deserve alot better by the sound of that T*at and dont let him get to you.

[jump]

Lolbeck be a bitch to him and demand the money he owes you back!

[lolbeck]

Yeah, this is the thing. he probably really thought you were just friends who slept together. So he didn't think he was doing anything wrong having other friends who he could sleep with.

He thought he was on to a good thing. No strings sex. And now he's found out there's no such thing when a woman's involved. (except in rare circumstances).

To be fair, if he's made it clear he had no commitment to you, then you had the choice to go along with it or say no. It's clearly not what you wanted, but if he made himself clear, that's not really his fault. He just doesn't understand women very well.

He didn't make himself clear, that's the problem. He led me on and let me think it was going somewhere.

Lolbeck be a bitch to him and demand the money he owes you back!

He's supposed to be giving back half of it on Thursday, and then the other half when he eventually gets his student grant through, which should be next week.

[feral chile]

He didn't make himself clear, that's the problem. He led me on and let me think it was going somewhere.

He's supposed to be giving back half of it on Thursday, and then the other half when he eventually gets his student grant through, which should be next week.

You're better off out of it then, pity the next poor girl.