Relationships

[Jackmypie]

I read somewhere it takes between 15-17 months to get over someone you loved. Not sure how they calculated it though. I guess it would depend on how long you were with them too.

[guypjfreak]

ive been with my girl for 28 years married for 24 cant even imagine being with out her ......................hope you find some one and find the right one cos when you do youll know it

[TheGayTent]

??

an answer to a question can be an opinion. Answers to a question are suggestions, as the OP requested.Analysing what exactly then? I didn't see any analysis going on. I certainly wouldn't have suggested it, because it wouldn't be constructive.

Breaking contact, meeting someone else, alcoholic consolation - these are over analyses?

[feral chile]

Those aren't answers, they're terrible opinions. The only answer in this scenario is time.

Your "suggestions" are distractions, nothing more.

[kaosmark2]

If possible, I'd advise you to call up one of your best mates, ideally someone who knows the girl but doesn't see them that often, and talk it out with them in person (over a number of pints if you're a drinker). Maybe try and get back into the habit of spending time with someone you've not seen in a while. If while you're recovering from this you're spending time with good friends it'll help reassert the idea that you have other significant people in your life, without any romance or desire involved, that you have a meaningful and supportive relationship with.

Flings, hook-ups etc. might be a distraction you want, or a self-esteem booster, but it could also end up being something that feels shallow, meaningless, and reminds you of what you haven't got. You know yourself best, but consider how it'll affect you before having a shag.

Whether you try and have a clean break and stop spending time with her at all or just cut it down is up to you, but the important thing is not to let yourself still feel dependent on your relationship (or lack of) with her. Focus on the emotional connections you do have, strengthen and indulge them. What you do doesn't matter so much as making sure you spend time around people you feel comfortable with, as it'll be impossible to feel comfortable and natural around her anymore. You might be able to maintain a worthwhile friendship, but until there's no awkwardness (and that will be a long time coming), it's not the sort worth focusing on.

Those aren't answers, they're terrible opinions. The only answer in this scenario is time.

Your "suggestions" are distractions, nothing more.

[zahidf]

I read somewhere it takes between 15-17 months to get over someone you loved. Not sure how they calculated it though. I guess it would depend on how long you were with them too.

[Katster]

Shouldn't all this be in the singles thread?? I thought this was about the other side of the coin.

Edited July 29, 2013 by Katster

[nightcrawler13]

Shouldn't all this be in the singles thread?? I thought this was about the other side of the coin.

[Katster]

Was just looking forward to hearing success stories or problems within relationships rather than out of them. BUT, a friendship is a relationship. I just thought i would find nice stories of people madly in love.

I just got back home from secret garden party after spending first five days away from my partner in a year. It was lovely to know how much someone had missed me. Especially after last year when i returned to a very tangible 'meh'.

Edited July 29, 2013 by Katster

[viberunner]

So, what's the best way to get over someone you have really strong unrequited feelings for?