Getting married and having children - is it so strange as a woman I don't want either?

[TheGayTent]

It depends if the day is about showing off to family & guests, or if it's about getting married.

Marriage does not require any of the bullshit that's attached to it as standard.

[mrtourette]

If you get married and have kids (or do it in a certain way) to please/impress family or to meet social expectations/pressures rather than because it's what you want to do with the one you love then you're doing it wrong.

If you don't want to get married and have kids (or do it in a certain way) because you think it's more important to rally against what you perceive to be sexist sterotypes, traditions and social expectations/pressures rather than doing what you want to do with the one you love then you're also doing it wrong.

In short it's a personal decision between to people who should want to make each other happy so don't make it any more than that.

And if the answer to that is not to get married and have kids than congratulations on coming up with a defined answer to a happy life that evades most people.

Edited January 14, 2014 by mrtourette

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

*bites Tongue*

[fred quimby]

What funny thing am I not getting?

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

You love it when she tells you to obey and cracks the whip. No need to pretend

[fred quimby]

On a side note (I've mentioned this before so apologies if you are reading this again) I seriously gave some thought to getting a gimp in to do the housework etc. They wouldn't want paying, just a kick up the arse everynow and again and shouting at them to work harder. I actually know someone in London who has their own gimp. I'm not trying to forecast fashion but having one's own gimp could be the new black.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

that is not a bad idea. maybe a visit to a fetish club is in order

[mrtourette]

If you managed to find someone who took sexual gratification from doing the housework in a gimp costume do you think you'd have to pay them as well? Or would said sexual gratification be enough?

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

If you managed to find someone who took sexual gratification from doing the housework in a gimp costume do you think you'd have to pay them as well? Or would said sexual gratification be enough?

[fred quimby]

We phoned up for tickets but they had sold out.

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Maybe you would have liked it :-)

[fred quimby]

I agree - I see lots of people getting proper stressed on THEIR big day (the weddings I've been to) about the guests being happy. Surely that means that can't be concentrating on the moment of each other on the day

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Did they tell you in a very stern voice

[fred quimby]

If I'm honest I doubt whether I would. It would have been a novel experience though. The woman I was going to go with once went to see a public fisting in a hired room above a pub. At the end of the night it was she who found that her fist was up some blokes arse while being dragged around the room on a chair she was sitting on that had wheels on the bottom.

[fred quimby]

Well that's not the point I'm making. I don't think I need to officially 'enter' the family of my partner which is what I would be doing if I took his last name and lose my own in marriage. My last name not only represents my own family (which is extremely small) but also I like my last name.

I already have a really good relationship with my partners family - do I really need to become their family in name too? Do I really need to give myself to my partners last name? All seems wierd to me. Again I don't mean to offend anyone here BARRY FISH - these are my thoughts on the whole thing. I don't know maybe people who choose to do it see it as romantic and is seen as part of the comittment to each other

[LondonTom]

Did they tell you in a very stern voice

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Some bloke eh.

*pointy nose sign*

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Bet they offered him a role under the toilets.

[fred quimby]

I wonder who she'll bring around next.

[eFestivals]

Did you have a point?

Yes. It seems that you missed it tho.

Never mind, eh? Non-conformity rarely suits the conservative types.

[bunique]

"I'm not a feminist"

*weeps*

[kaosmark2]

We are a nation of single parent families largely due to your sort of thinking.

[guypjfreak]

been married 24 years been together 28 .....................and she STILL loves me .....or so she says lol

got 2 great kids 26 and 22 [ we started young ] and my sons been with his girl for 9 years and my daughter 3 years and i have a LOVELY granddaughter baby ruby thats the light of my life .

my brother on the other hand has been with loads of girls never married has a 20 year old daughter and now 2 boys under 5 [ not with the mother ] and is with an old flame with 2 more kids ..............he says his life is complicated ....i believe him lol

marriage is wot you make it its NOT easy far from it but it is worth it and i for i consider my self one of the lucky ones

[bunique]

Never really thought of myself as being a feminist. My post can be about same sex couples as well and the reasons they choose to go for marriage - not just men and women so it's not about feminism

[Uncle Liam]

Why do you think you are offending me ?

I just think your a great example of commitment shy modern Britain... We are a nation of single parent families largely due to your sort of thinking. When you have three kids and no man you might start to regret your thinking