Getting married and having children - is it so strange as a woman I don't want either?

[rachbon]

Still, any time a woman says "I'm not a feminist", something dies inside me. Like a fairy.

[TheGayTent]

Yes. It seems that you missed it tho.

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[kaosmark2]

Its all sleeping around, fuck and forget...

[russycarps]

Its all sleeping around, fuck and forget...

[Yoghurt on a Stick]

Must be all that pent up sexual frustration all you religious types seem to have.

[kaosmark2]

I grew up on a council estate... I was lucky to have parents who gave a shit. Many around us couldn't of given less fucks about their behaviour...

[kaosmark2]

Hmmm think maybe you're generalising people who aren't married here?

Edited January 15, 2014 by kaosmark2

[kaosmark2]

But you on the other hand have it all worked out ? Oh fuck off

I wouldn't be surprised if you have never set foot in a council estate

[kaosmark2]

The TV doesn't lie

[grumpyhack]

Hopefully a sense of tolerance and caring.

[kaosmark2]

Hopefully a sense of tolerance and caring.

[pink_triangle]

Posted in wrong thread

Edited January 16, 2014 by pink_triangle

[Katster]

I haven't read the whole thread but people should just do what's right for them. Nobody says you have to get married and nobody says you have to have children (or if they do they can't make you). It's your choice. End of.

[WS_Jack_III]

I've been thinking. Everyone on Facebook is getting married or pregnant. I'm not having a go at people who think marriage is a wonderful thing but I just don't see the point? If you're already happy in a relationship and living together and not religious - why? People always say it doesn't change you as a couple to get married. People are getting divorced at the drop of a hat so it just makes it all seem so meaningless? Everyone is doing it too and not questioning the point in my eyes? Any married couples who can enlighten me or people who share the same views? I understand it's romantic - but is marriage to someone forever being realistic?

The same with babies - everyone is getting pregnant now who are same age as me (28) and I just can't see the appeal. Maybe I'm just not maternal or not prepared to lose such freedom, money or sleep. People say you'll feel different as you get older, or if you're with the right guy. I disagree. Should I have a child because everyone else is? Will it make me happy? Is it my reason for living to create another me? Any one with similar thoughts or anyone with children who think my view is all wrong? I'm open to opinions and in advance don't mean to upset anyone married or with children - it's just my thoughts

Edited February 15, 2014 by III

[bunique]

No, just sensible!

[WS_Jack_III]

They are a burden... The best burden you could ever have...

[feral chile]

It's nothing to do with age. But if you realise you're not ready, then it's far more sensible to wait until you are, instead of caving to pressure.

You can never really know how much of yourself you give to children after they're born, beforehand it's impossible to imagine.

it's not selfish feeling children would be a burden. It would be selfish to have them without realising this, and to have them for selfish reasons. As accessories, to follow the crowd, to fulfil your failed achievements, to have someone to love you etc.

Putting your own needs first when you have another young life whose needs supersede yours - that's selfish. And rewalising beforehand that's how you'll feel - that's insight,

Edited February 15, 2014 by feral chile

[bunique]

Children are pretty portable...

[feral chile]

Children are pretty portable...

[bunique]

But the previous poster is suggesting you can't travel with children - you can.

[feral chile]

But the previous poster is suggesting you can't travel with children - you can.

[bunique]

True feral, it's not going to be the hedonistic Goa beach party you might have envisioned, but children don't tie you down as much as people think. The other stuff - mortgage, bills, etc - is much more of a problem!

[feral chile]

True feral, it's not going to be the hedonistic Goa beach party you might have envisioned, but children don't tie you down as much as people think. The other stuff - mortgage, bills, etc - is much more of a problem!

Edited February 16, 2014 by feral chile

[feral chile]

You can't take a baby/toddler travelling for 3 months and then as they start school you can't take them out for that length of time either. You can take them on holidays of course though

Edited February 16, 2014 by feral chile

[WS_Jack_III]

Sundaydaysblue let me ask you this if you don't mind.

Are you currently in a relationship?

Also I guess at 28 people/family start to expect you to settle into the family thing.