How to reign it in?

[gigpusher]

3 hours ago, Upside down frowner said:

I'm like this with my wife and friends. She will attend, have a brilliant time and report back to friends how good it is but she's not on efestivals every day and doesn't really care about the line up or where the newest pop up bars is. 

 

To be fair we are like this with travelling and lots of different areas of life. Sometimes gets annoyed with my 'research' but loves the actual events/holidays because I've usually eeked-out some gems. 

I'm the same with holidays. When we went to San Fran/Las Vegas I probably knew more than some locals. In fact we went to a pizza place in San Fran and I asked if they would do some dough tossing as I knew they were famous for it and a couple came up to my table afterwards to thank me for asking as they had been going there for 10 years and had never seen it. 

My husband is similar with holiday. Happy to just let me do it and he'll let me know if he has any must see's or do's. 

[Dreamingofsunnydays]

4 hours ago, Upside down frowner said:

I'm like this with my wife and friends. She will attend, have a brilliant time and report back to friends how good it is but she's not on efestivals every day and doesn't really care about the line up or where the newest pop up bars is. 

 

To be fair we are like this with travelling and lots of different areas of life. Sometimes gets annoyed with my 'research' but loves the actual events/holidays because I've usually eeked-out some gems. 

Exactly this!

im completely the same

[gooner1990]

5 minutes ago, gigpusher said:

I'm the same with holidays. When we went to San Fran/Las Vegas I probably knew more than some locals. In fact we went to a pizza place in San Fran and I asked if they would do some dough tossing as I knew they were famous for it and a couple came up to my table afterwards to thank me for asking as they had been going there for 10 years and had never seen it. 

My husband is similar with holiday. Happy to just let me do it and he'll let me know if he has any must see's or do's. 

that's me on holidays. 🙂 - no point trying to interfere as it just causes arguments!

[gigpusher]

2 minutes ago, gooner1990 said:

that's me on holidays. 🙂 - no point trying to interfere as it just causes arguments!

I'd be happy for him to research as well if he wanted but he's just not as bothered. If there is a trip that he does organise it's meticulous as he's quite OCD but I am usually the organiser. He does sometimes have surprisingly strong opinions on things (I had a choice of 1 hotel when we went to Vegas!) 

[watsonjm]

5 hours ago, Avalon_Fields said:

My wife has never been to Glastonbury and never wants to go. I always go to Glastonbury and never want to leave. We are ideally suited.

This, very much this. 

The group I go with get no where near as excited as me and tend to end up taking the piss.  I come here now 

Edited May 6, 2022 by watsonjm

[gooner1990]

22 minutes ago, gigpusher said:

I'd be happy for him to research as well if he wanted but he's just not as bothered. If there is a trip that he does organise it's meticulous as he's quite OCD but I am usually the organiser. He does sometimes have surprisingly strong opinions on things (I had a choice of 1 hotel when we went to Vegas!) 

With my gf I tend to book the flights and hotel and she does the restaurants and sights etc.  I'm more fussy about hotels than she is and she's more fussy about restaurants than I am so works well. 🙂

If she did Glastonbury we would likely have to just agree to do our own thing then come together when we wanted to. 🙂 

[FrancisH]

12 hours ago, Dreamingofsunnydays said:

A few glasses of red wine tonight and a topic starter.

How do you avoid peaking too early and annoying your significant other?

We we’re successful in 2019 and both virgins, but my life is literally dictated by this forum right now…from listening to @GlastoCastto doing a “cool wall” on our fridge (thanks @squirrelarmy)

The wife has said chill…but anyone else so excited…and in danger of popping the cork too early??

You can't.

Every year I tell myself I'm gonna take it easy, not obsess over every individual lineup detail and not make a thousand iterations of clashfinders that are completely inaccurate, not be bothered about minuscule map changes.... But I never do. The buildup is all part of it.

[Padgey]

Pointless is our house, my Missus has never been and never wants to, and I try not to say too much in front of my 5 year old as he really wants to go, so therefore I just come on here to get my fix!

[Scrump]

Like many others here, this like-minded community is my outlet which avoids annoying my better half. To be fair she's been before but just isn't obsessive about glasto. She does have positive qualities though, I promise!

 

We volunteered at worth pastures with the kids last summer. That did 2 very useful things... 1 got me a ticket with water aid and 2 introduced the wife to lots of even bigger glasto nerds than me!

[gigpusher]

9 minutes ago, gooner1990 said:

With my gf I tend to book the flights and hotel and she does the restaurants and sights etc.  I'm more fussy about hotels than she is and she's more fussy about restaurants than I am so works well. 🙂

If she did Glastonbury we would likely have to just agree to do our own thing then come together when we wanted to. 🙂 

I'm lucky that we have broadly similar musical tastes. Think we have only split up once or twice. He tends to have an obssession of the moment which only changes about every 9 months to a year whereas I listen to an awful lot more stuff. I generally have introduced him to all his obsessions as I have a very good idea of the kind of thing he'll really like. Often he gets his obsessions after seeing them live for example he wasn't that bothered about seeing Arcade Fire in 2014 but  insisted and he must have played that set to death!!! 

[gooner1990]

41 minutes ago, watsonjm said:

This, very much this. 

The group I go with get no where near as excited as me and tend to end up taking the piss.  I come here now 

What sort of stuff do they say?!

Most of my friends are also heavy festival goers too so no piss taking really goes on,  as I get my fix on here so don't really bug them either,  that said if some of our more causal or younger festival going friends have a question they usually tend to get pointed towards me! 🙂

[gooner1990]

18 minutes ago, gigpusher said:

I'm lucky that we have broadly similar musical tastes. Think we have only split up once or twice. He tends to have an obssession of the moment which only changes about every 9 months to a year whereas I listen to an awful lot more stuff. I generally have introduced him to all his obsessions as I have a very good idea of the kind of thing he'll really like. Often he gets his obsessions after seeing them live for example he wasn't that bothered about seeing Arcade Fire in 2014 but  insisted and he must have played that set to death!!! 

I'm lucky my gf doesn't do festival goes anymore so I just do my own thing although she does give me recommendations based on what she's listening to...latest one was Amyl and the Sniffers. 🙂 

[waltere]

7 hours ago, stuartbert two hats said:

I leave her at home* and be sure to have a tab of porn ready to switch over to in case she sees I'm reading eFests again.

And now I'm sleeping in the spare bedroom due to that strategy, so I have more time for looking at the webcam.

* The bit about leaving her at home is true.

Using porn as an excuse to look at tractors, like the bizarro world version of Neil Parish 😂

[sirjonnyp]

I'm going to ignore the partner aspect of the question, and answer the real question about how I avoid peaking early.

I don't. 

Once I feel I have had to much to drink, I either take a breather and drink water for an hour or two (see Friday 2017 after Craig Charles but before Radiohead), or I keep going (see [insert day here]).

Ride the peak, decide what to do with it. If you have peaked, either take a breather, or keep going. Glastonbury is the best place whichever you choose.  

[Hotchilidog]

I obsess so my friends don't have to, they are more than happy for me to do the legwork so I can answer their queries. It is quite worrying how many conversations I manage to shoehorn Glastonbury into. Reining it in is impossible for me. I try and limit my Glastonbury What's App group updates to a couple of times a week so I do not completely bore them to tears.

[efcfanwirral]

I've been lucky enough to find a partner who shares my excitement to an extent, though (thankfully) she's not on here and just relies on me relaying the information that I read. But she seems just as excitable about everything for this year. This'll be our third attending together, but our second actually together as a couple as we went to her first year in 2016 in a friend group. Of that group she's the only one who wanted to go again, and she was as taken with the whole thing as I was my first year, which is a real feat considering the conditions that year. We'll be ramping up the documentary watching, old sets etc in the coming weeks. 

Since resale day we've basically talked non stop about Glastonbury, its great. I just need to remember we've got a week long holiday, MCR gig, Neighbourhood Weekender and Liam Gallagher before it! I keep almost wishing those away.  

Edited May 6, 2022 by efcfanwirral

[WestCountryGirl]

My fiancé is very sweet at humouring me when I get excited about it - whether that's me making my packing list months in advance, or just telling him something that I really want to see.

He has zero interest in ever attending and I certainly will never make him - he would be miserable. It works out because he really needs some time at home alone too, so my buzzing away to a festival suits us both down to the ground.

I think he most struggles when I come back and it's all I want to talk about for a few weeks. I don't think he did at first, but now he fully understands how important a time it is for me, and responds with interest. 

He's a goodn. I must say even when I am having an absolute whale of a time at Glasto I still miss him!

[Junglist1981]

I get completely obsessed in the run up, it gets a bit ridiculous and is definitely a drain on my productivity and free time. Next week I'm gonna be putting this site and the webcam on block as I have a big deadline that I need to fully focus on! I also need a bit of a reset tbh to restore a healthy balance.

I struggle a bit with addictive web habits in general. I'll sometimes find myself repeatedly checking the various sites I follow throughout the day for new information, rather than just once or twice daily in a healthy manner. To sort myself out I have to bung them all on block for a couple of weeks to break the habit, then I'll be ok again for a while. 

[1986]

I've not been since 2016, in spite that only being 2 missed festivals it almost feels like I'm going again for the first time but with knowledge of how good it is. My fiancé is coming with me and the only time she's been was 2016, with all that mud and fatigue that came with it. She's excited but not keep-a-tab-of-efestivals-open-all-day excited. So my only reining in is not telling her every bit of informed gossip I read on here. Otherwise it's like Christmas over here.

Edit - just please let the weather be good.

Edited May 6, 2022 by 1986

[sildante]

[TheDayman]

Our Glasto 22 WhatsApp group is pretty much one way traffic at the moment 😬

Probably going to have to give this site a miss for a few weeks too, getting nothing done in work!

[Greenelk]

This year will be my Mrs Elk's 10th Glastonbury, but she doesn't love it like I do (and doesn't really understand my obsession).  A few incidents with being groped as she left a busy pyramid field, and some bloke trying to chat her up, and then following her and refusing to leave her alone when she was walking to the toilets on her own in 2017 understandably lessened her enthusiasm compared to the earlier ones for her as well (she's very much of the opinion that there's been a shift in the type of people that are attending).   The year our luck runs out on ticket day, I think she'll ask me not to try for her anymore.  She's threatened not to come a couple of times, and prefers other festivals.  

So I have to temper my outbursts of joy and the fact that despite I'm racing towards 50, I'm like an over excited teenager, pouring over every line up announcement, and spending far too much time on here!  
 

[GeezLouise]

I am the only person who posts in my whatsapp glasto group with DAILY (more than daily) updates. I KNOW I'm being annoying but I don't care. Everyone else should care more about the little details, we shouldn't have to care less. 

Although, I could do without the now daily nightmares of not finding a camping spot. 

Also, doing the clashfinder is my idea of actual heaven. Setting up a playlist based off the clashfinder. Deleting the artists where there's clashes.  Finding new music where i have a spare hour and comparing acts. LITERALLY HEAVEN. INJECT IT INTO MY VEINS.

Edited May 6, 2022 by GeezLouise

[BlackZeppelin]

As we get closer I'm getting more tolerant looks rather than enthusiastic ones from Mrs B.

She has been twice, once in 95 when we were young, and once in 2016 with the kids. Not really her thing anymore.

 Clearly, I haven't grown up yet.

I think there is a very small percentage of people who obsess about it , the way most on this forum do. We must comprise less than 1 percent of all attendees.

I say, enjoy it, instead of a 5 day event it becomes a year round one.

In a culture pretty much bereft of meaningful festivals and events, GF meets those needs, hence the year round focus.

[BlackZeppelin]

9 minutes ago, GeezLouise said:

I am the only person who posts in my whatsapp glasto group with DAILY (more than daily) updates. I KNOW I'm being annoying but I don't care. Everyone else should care more about the little details, we shouldn't have to care less. 

Yes of the nine of us in my Whatsapp group, I've done 90% of the posting.

At least a couple of them send the odd ☺