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You can't make somebody love you. If you love her you have to respect her choice, even though it's not what you want. Make it clear though that you aren't happy about it and you don't feel the same way......

I called it off with someone I'd been with for years more in an attempt to get him to appreciate me more again, than because I didn't love him. He let me go so easily I ended up wondering whether he ever loved me at all :P

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We don't all do it. I have never told someone I'll love them forever and I've never told someone I'll be with them forever.

But yes, lots of people do, and lots of people change their mind unfortunately :P

Just wondering. I know from personal experience I went through a lot of changes in what I wanted from a partner from age 20 to 25. I think during that age is when a girl becomes a woman (not exactly during those ages of course, but around that sort of time) and was wondering whether that was the case with your girl.

I'd have thought by mid-30s she should be able to talk to you about what's going on, she's being slightly unfair and a bit childish? Sorry, I know I don't know her and this may not be the case.

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Ok - most people do it. I mean that's just two examples of things that have been said and more fool me I believed it :P

Yeah it wasn't that.

I'm not going to publicly announce that the woman I love is both unfair and childish, I think she is just scared and thinks it isn't going to work out and so is running away - literally and metaphorically.

See this is the other thing, I believe it could still work but I'm not sure that she will give me the chance to save our relationship.

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Well the distance for one. She didn't turn up for our anniversary weekend because she was exhausted - she is worried that she can't carry on with that.

for two, she still hasn't met my Mother and is worried about that. I probably should have sorted it out sooner but I can't magically make them both available and willing to meet at the same time.

I think those are the main things. Also deep down she doesn't think she's "good enough" for me even though I've told her repeatedly I think she's wonderful :P

This is getting more than "the public" need to know perhaps... :P

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If I were you, and I don't know if this is the right thing to do as I'm not exactly mr responsible and I'm a bit shit at relationships (in fact disastorous), but I'd maybe go to where she lives at the weekend, pop round to her hosue and chap the door and say we need to talk and pour out all your feelings and discuss how you can sort them (for instance, the distance thing)
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Well the distance for one. She didn't turn up for our anniversary weekend because she was exhausted - she is worried that she can't carry on with that.

for two, she still hasn't met my Mother and is worried about that. I probably should have sorted it out sooner but I can't magically make them both available and willing to meet at the same time.

I think those are the main things. Also deep down she doesn't think she's "good enough" for me even though I've told her repeatedly I think she's wonderful :P

This is getting more than "the public" need to know perhaps... :P

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I was sexually assaulted today at work :P

*EXPLICIT MATERIAL BELOW*

Me and hot office girl flirted a bit at our office party, dancing rather close and whatnot, but I put that down to her just being a flirty person.

Today our office swapped our secret santa gifts and stuff, then posed for a few group photos. I was at the back, being taller than most, and she was in front of me, crouching slightly. She was sort of leaning against me, which was nice and warm... then she started gently grinding her bum into my, um... crotch. At first I thought it was accidental. But we were posing like that for ages, and she kept doing it. It was quite subtle so nobody else noticed, but it was definitely intentional.

Oh it was so hot. Quite reminiscent of that scene from Peep Show with Mark and Dobby in the supply closet (or 'f**k bunker'). I can't wait to see the photos, the look on my face will be fantastic. I was trying so hard not to get 'excited'. Managed to limit it to a semi-on, so hopefully she thinks I have a large flacid penis rather than a very small erection.

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I was sexually assaulted today at work :lol:

*EXPLICIT MATERIAL BELOW*

Me and hot office girl flirted a bit at our office party, dancing rather close and whatnot, but I put that down to her just being a flirty person.

Today our office swapped our secret santa gifts and stuff, then posed for a few group photos. I was at the back, being taller than most, and she was in front of me, crouching slightly. She was sort of leaning against me, which was nice and warm... then she started gently grinding her bum into my, um... crotch. At first I thought it was accidental. But we were posing like that for ages, and she kept doing it. It was quite subtle so nobody else noticed, but it was definitely intentional.

Oh it was so hot. Quite reminiscent of that scene from Peep Show with Mark and Dobby in the supply closet (or 'f**k bunker'). I can't wait to see the photos, the look on my face will be fantastic. I was trying so hard not to get 'excited'. Managed to limit it to a semi-on, so hopefully she thinks I have a large flacid penis rather than a very small erection.

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I was sexually assaulted today at work :P

*EXPLICIT MATERIAL BELOW*

Me and hot office girl flirted a bit at our office party, dancing rather close and whatnot, but I put that down to her just being a flirty person.

Today our office swapped our secret santa gifts and stuff, then posed for a few group photos. I was at the back, being taller than most, and she was in front of me, crouching slightly. She was sort of leaning against me, which was nice and warm... then she started gently grinding her bum into my, um... crotch. At first I thought it was accidental. But we were posing like that for ages, and she kept doing it. It was quite subtle so nobody else noticed, but it was definitely intentional.

Oh it was so hot. Quite reminiscent of that scene from Peep Show with Mark and Dobby in the supply closet (or 'f**k bunker'). I can't wait to see the photos, the look on my face will be fantastic. I was trying so hard not to get 'excited'. Managed to limit it to a semi-on, so hopefully she thinks I have a large flacid penis rather than a very small erection.

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I was sexually assaulted today at work :P

*EXPLICIT MATERIAL BELOW*

Me and hot office girl flirted a bit at our office party, dancing rather close and whatnot, but I put that down to her just being a flirty person.

Today our office swapped our secret santa gifts and stuff, then posed for a few group photos. I was at the back, being taller than most, and she was in front of me, crouching slightly. She was sort of leaning against me, which was nice and warm... then she started gently grinding her bum into my, um... crotch. At first I thought it was accidental. But we were posing like that for ages, and she kept doing it. It was quite subtle so nobody else noticed, but it was definitely intentional.

Oh it was so hot. Quite reminiscent of that scene from Peep Show with Mark and Dobby in the supply closet (or 'f**k bunker'). I can't wait to see the photos, the look on my face will be fantastic. I was trying so hard not to get 'excited'. Managed to limit it to a semi-on, so hopefully she thinks I have a large flacid penis rather than a very small erection.

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oooh ooh oooh this is well like what happened to me and my boyfriend.

He was mostly really stressed from work and things and really tired and couldn't do anything about that so decided to end our relationship to cut a stress out of his life. This didn't help and made us both miserable. He mentioned loads of really trivial reasons he'd convinced himself were important too, really nonsensical stuff that he'd built up in his head as reasons why he wasn't good enough etc. e.g. " I can't be bothered to shave sometimes". that's him saying that not me btw :P

I left him alone for about 5 days then we talked which was good because I'd worked out what I thought and wanted to say. We then met up and hung out for the day to chat and see each other again.

It has been quite good and I think our relationship has improved now we don't take it for granted we will spend every weekend together doing things when we're shattered and we're more considerate and relaxed about things. Maybe it will all still go tits up but maybe it wont.

I reckon, after a bit of space, maybe ask her to consider if it's that she doesn't want to be in the relationship or if it's the situation that's too hard and if there's any simple way to change it that you'd both be happy trying.

I would say she probably owes you a chat about it after the emotions have settled a bit of this was really out of the blue for you.

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