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[Cardboard Box City]

Obviously your not very good at this stalking lark!

You could find out the full name of any other emplyee there and search their friends lists for her first name/picture.

Or maybe follow her around and find out where she goes out and if she's in the group for that place.

Maybe follow her to her car and get her reg plate then see if the DVLA can give you details of the registered owner.

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[ampersand]

Whatever you do ampersand don't ask her out in person, just as a customer. Get to know her first if you're going to do that.

I've had random blokes ask me out in Tosco before now and it's embarrassing and just makes you think "weirdo".

It also doesn't help when they come in shopping the week after with their wife and kids.

[strudders]

I have visions of this happening.....

Anything Kosher

[Cardboard Box City]

It also doesn't help when they come in shopping the week after with their wife and kids.

[Katster]

yeah that's what i'm thinking, loads of folk probably ask folk working in shops all the time and give you that impression. luckily i've no wife or kids

[Cardboard Box City]

[Katster]

[gemstarrr]

so it appears that someone i had a major crush on for at least 2 years now likes me.

altho doubt he's got the confidence to actually ask me out. couldn't even talk to me without going red tonight. so don't know what to do.

i only ever see him by chance when at the pub when we're both back from uni and have completely different friends so its not like we can hang out casually and get closer. i know i'll probably see him at the pub next week.

do you think i should be forward and ask him for a drink or something?

or should i wait til summer when we'll both be at home for a while...

[lolbeck]

There's this guy at uni, and I like him ever so much. And he liked me a lot too, it was all going well, until I let on that I wanted more than just casual stuff. And he was all like "whoaaa there, I like you a lot but..." and got into this big explanation about his past (he might, potentially, have a child to his cheating ex at home, she didn't tell him he was going to have it, she was sleeping around, he's seen the child once when it was dumped on his lap in a pub by someone else, getting a dna test done, if it's his, he's going to sort stuff out so he has no responsibility for it...or something). Basically he's got no trust for women because of it, doesn't want me getting hurt because his ex turned him into a prick. I, of course, am still all wound up about it, simply because he makes me weak at the knees and he makes my heart all a-flutter. And I'm cool with the child thing. I can live with that.

But I won't see him for 3 weeks, but I figure...I'll do a bit of facebook chatting over the holidays and try to be just friends and see if things escalate from there?

I don't know what to doooo. I'd just drop it but mutual friends are convinced he likes me and he's just scared :/

Edited March 31, 2010 by lolbeck

[Katster]

There's this guy at uni, and I like him ever so much. And he liked me a lot too, it was all going well, until I let on that I wanted more than just casual stuff. And he was all like "whoaaa there, I like you a lot but..." and got into this big explanation about his past (he might, potentially, have a child to his cheating ex at home, she didn't tell him he was going to have it, she was sleeping around, he's seen the child once when it was dumped on his lap in a pub by someone else, getting a dna test done, if it's his, he's going to sort stuff out so he has no responsibility for it...or something). Basically he's got no trust for women because of it, doesn't want me getting hurt because his ex turned him into a prick. I, of course, am still all wound up about it, simply because he makes me weak at the knees and he makes my heart all a-flutter. And I'm cool with the child thing. I can live with that.

But I won't see him for 3 weeks, but I figure...I'll do a bit of facebook chatting over the holidays and try to be just friends and see if things escalate from there?

I don't know what to doooo. I'd just drop it but mutual friends are convinced he likes me and he's just scared :/

[ampersand]

Errrm, if it IS his then he can't 'sort it out so he has no responsibility for it'

I'd stay well clear until he knows where he is in life.

[lolbeck]

Errrm, if it IS his then he can't 'sort it out so he has no responsibility for it'

I'd stay well clear until he knows where he is in life.

[Katster]

My phrasing wasn't the best.

If it's his, he said something about going to court so he has no financial responsibility for it, since he's a student and can't afford to look after a baby - which is what he said to her when she told him she was pregnant, as well as that he didn't want it and wasn't in the right place mentally, and yet she had the baby anyway. Said he's already spoken to some lawyer-type people who'll be on it if worst comes to the worst.

Supposedly.

I don't know. S'just what he told me.

[dakyras]

There's this guy at uni, and I like him ever so much. And he liked me a lot too, it was all going well, until I let on that I wanted more than just casual stuff. And he was all like "whoaaa there, I like you a lot but..." and got into this big explanation about his past (he might, potentially, have a child to his cheating ex at home, she didn't tell him he was going to have it, she was sleeping around, he's seen the child once when it was dumped on his lap in a pub by someone else, getting a dna test done, if it's his, he's going to sort stuff out so he has no responsibility for it...or something). Basically he's got no trust for women because of it, doesn't want me getting hurt because his ex turned him into a prick. I, of course, am still all wound up about it, simply because he makes me weak at the knees and he makes my heart all a-flutter. And I'm cool with the child thing. I can live with that.

But I won't see him for 3 weeks, but I figure...I'll do a bit of facebook chatting over the holidays and try to be just friends and see if things escalate from there?

I don't know what to doooo. I'd just drop it but mutual friends are convinced he likes me and he's just scared :/

[Bezdad]

My phrasing wasn't the best.

If it's his, he said something about going to court so he has no financial responsibility for it, since he's a student and can't afford to look after a baby - which is what he said to her when she told him she was pregnant, as well as that he didn't want it and wasn't in the right place mentally, and yet she had the baby anyway. Said he's already spoken to some lawyer-type people who'll be on it if worst comes to the worst.

Supposedly.

I don't know. S'just what he told me.

[ampersand]

My phrasing wasn't the best.

If it's his, he said something about going to court so he has no financial responsibility for it, since he's a student and can't afford to look after a baby - which is what he said to her when she told him she was pregnant, as well as that he didn't want it and wasn't in the right place mentally, and yet she had the baby anyway. Said he's already spoken to some lawyer-type people who'll be on it if worst comes to the worst.

Supposedly.

I don't know. S'just what he told me.

[lolbeck]

He should have thought about all that before having unprotected sex.

Even if he used a condom and it split he still knows there is always that risk and so my point still applies.

God, I sound like Jeremy bloody Kyle!

[Langdale Wolf]

I lol'd

Yeah, I see everyone's point. I've been told much the same by a few friends as well. One of his best mates told me to be careful because he tends to be a self-centred prick. I'm playing it safe, we're gonna stick with just being friends.

It just bugs me that I know there's a nice person in there somewhereeee ahah :/

[Katster]

I lol'd

Yeah, I see everyone's point. I've been told much the same by a few friends as well. One of his best mates told me to be careful because he tends to be a self-centred prick. I'm playing it safe, we're gonna stick with just being friends.

It just bugs me that I know there's a nice person in there somewhereeee ahah :/

[lolbeck]

Well if there is, it's not up to you to find it.

Avoid. He sounds like an arse. Especially if one of his best mates is saying things like that!! Hardly a glowing endorsement.

Why do nice girls go for total losers so often? There are some lovely guys out there who would be far more suitable. 2 really good mates of mine are terminally single, but they're both top chaps and would make someone a great partner. I can't see it ever happening though, but I hope to be proven wrong.

Ah well, I'm just pleased I don't have to go through all that again!!

[Jaybles]

Trust me, the minute I meet a nice guy who's interested, I'll be in love.

[Langdale Wolf]

Hi, nice to meet you

Fancy a drink?

[lolbeck]

Hi, nice to meet you

Fancy a drink?

[-pogo-]

To be fair to him, he might just be freaking out n shit. Nobody on here I don't think has had that kind of responsibility just appear on them. I think I'd proper shit it too if it happened to me.

On the other hand, tread carefully, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, but ask yourself truthfully is it worth it.

[lolbeck]

To be fair to him, he might just be freaking out n shit. Nobody on here I don't think has had that kind of responsibility just appear on them. I think I'd proper shit it too if it happened to me.

On the other hand, tread carefully, it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, but ask yourself truthfully is it worth it.