Katster Posted June 16, 2010 Report Share Posted June 16, 2010 Yup! Can't be arsed making an effort with women right now, what with wall-to-wall football Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gre Posted June 16, 2010 Report Share Posted June 16, 2010 If you found the right one you wouldn't need to make any effort anyway. I loved being single but I more so love having met my match. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katster Posted June 16, 2010 Report Share Posted June 16, 2010 Oh very true - but sitting in watching TV every night isn't the best way to meet anyone, let alone the one! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
-pogo- Posted June 16, 2010 Report Share Posted June 16, 2010 If you found the right one you wouldn't need to make any effort anyway. I loved being single but I more so love having met my match. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katster Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Don't give us all the soppy stuff! You sold out! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Monkey Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 (edited) Ever noticed when "friends" get all loved up they start treating you like utter, utter shit? I mean trying their best to shake you off, cut you out, go out of their way to make you feel like shit, bullying you almost with abuse, especially whenever their missus is around. I mean I'm nowhere near perfect but I don't think I went out of my way to exclude or cut off or abuse my mates when I met my girlfriend. Relationships do seem to reveal a persons true colours (also when they drink they reveal a whole lot too - always find people who are c**ts turn into super c**ts when drunk - nice people tend to reveal a softer, happier side.), and as more and more mates get pairred up it seems to paint a picture of those who were genuine friends, and those who have just used me the whole time. Like you kinda realise they aren't really your friend, and they were really just using you, and each day you realise how much of a childish, unnappreciative twat they actually are? Every day I feel I should just reciprocate it, that'd be fair, but I've learned I'm not as much of a twat as they are, I actually stop. I guess that's the problem - I've learned to recognise when I'm being a prick and not to cross the line. Anyone gone through this? I am, and it feels really f**king horrible. I bottle this up every day, and every day more anger and frustration gets added. Don't want to vent to my girlfriend because it really isn't her problem, and it's not her fault at all. So I'll rant here, because you guys are nice. Should I just move on? Edited June 17, 2010 by Purple Monkey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katster Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Ever noticed when "friends" get all loved up they start treating you like utter shit, even though you never did that to them? f**king users. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lithium05 Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Ever noticed when "friends" get all loved up they start treating you like utter, utter shit? Anyone gone through this? I am, and it feels really f**king horrible. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Monkey Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Yeah, it's just the way they've changed. Picking holes in every little thing you do, only saying something if its a negative thing. I can't be botherred with it any more. Only person I feel cares about me is a clutch of good friends and my girlfriend, which is enough, at least Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Monkey Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 (edited) Yup. Some people forget that their friends were there before this wonderful person came along. Of course things change and you don't have as much time to see your friends because you and your partner are doing your thing but I do think it's important to continue to do things with your friends, both with and without your partner. My bloke has now become friends with most of my friends here so when I went home the other day and said "just to warn you, I've got a lot of works do's coming up, with it being the end of the year and me leaving the College" he just shrugged and said "It's not so bad now, I'll just go for a pint with *** ". To be fair when he first moved over here I did feel awful going out doing things with my friends and leaving him out because he basically had NOTHING to do and didn't really know anyone over here!! There's a balance, and I think it not only ensures you don't piss off your so called friends, but it also ensures your relationship works well. I don't bat an eyelid when he says he's off out with the lads.....and even if I did he'd tell me to get f**ked and I'd expect that (same applies vice versa). It's only natural that you have less time for your friends, but to not have any time for them at all is wrong. Edited June 17, 2010 by Purple Monkey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katster Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Thanks. Like I said I am far from perfect, I know I haven't been the best mate in the world myself, especially when I started seeing my girlfriend, but I'm pretty sure my girlfriend and my mates hung around together just fine - my girlfriend puts up with my mates, she's super tolerant of their shite, I am lucky to have her, because I think that's rare. She has never once objected to me doing anything without her, and she has never once said anything bad about my friends, she's a friend to them all, really. But my "mates" have forgotten all that. They've forgotten all those times they've drunkenly asked awkward questions when we've all been together, when they've been a total drunken prick spouting jibberish and abuse towards both of us, and me and my gf have tolerated it, for YEARS. Not ONCE have I done that to them when their missus is about, but they decide that some days I'm not even worth the time of day. It's the fact me and my gf accomodated their single-ness for so f**king long, and they've done nothing but hurl the usual drunken bullshit my way. It's the cheek of it that just pisses me off. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Monkey Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 (edited) Hope things get better for you. Do as Lithium says. That song will either make you laugh or cry, it's so so true. Edited June 17, 2010 by Purple Monkey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gre Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Get to the pub then and watch it, you never know, your pefect football fantatic hot chick might be ready and waiting for you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goblinz Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 I can't beleive how some people go from being determined to be single for the rest of the life to head over heals.... My festival circle of friends was absolutely shattered recently when a friend started seeing another friends ex, resulting in a lot of physical and emotional pain. Means i may be back to doing festies alone for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dakyras Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Bros before hoes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Monkey Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 True true... just have to fight through the hordes of balding sweaty men first! I swear every attractive girl is surrounded by 8 dickheads when they go out. A friend of mine says the same thing about cute gay guys being surrounded by 8 straight guys come to think of it... And this is why bars/clubs are not the best place to meet people! Anyway... we're supposed to be going out after the England game tomorrow (indie club, lots of cute girls who I like to think aren't too young for me ), but I've got a consulation for laser eye surgery on Saturday lunchtime - not sure if I should stop drinking after the game or not Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katster Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 I can't beleive how some people go from being determined to be single for the rest of the life to head over heals.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lithium05 Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 I can't watch YouTube vids at work, do I assume that vid was a song by an act mentioned in my sig? Perhaps regarding a few too many Richards at the discotech? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gre Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Neither should be put above the other, or expected to by either mates or girlfriends. It's the expectation and lack of sensitivity that people exhibit towards each other that turns people into bell-ends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Monkey Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 I can't watch YouTube vids at work, do I assume that vid was a song by an act mentioned in my sig? Perhaps regarding a few too many Richards at the discotech? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lofty Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Some people just claim they want to be single then seem to be dating someone new every month! But yeah some people are a pain in the arse when they get hooked up, I'm not overly keen on PDA's either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dakyras Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 I'm lucky enough to have one of my best friends as my girlfriend, so I have the best of both worlds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gemstarrr Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 so i decided not to get with that guy 'casually'. thanks for the advice guys still not bumped into him yet, gonna be awkard but nvm! and really glad i didn't cos i met someone i really like last week. i'm home from uni for the week so we haven't been out yet but hopefully next week only thing is age seems to be an issue for him. he keeps mentioning it, only casually like 'at 22 i've not got the stamina for going out every night like you'. but it keeps coming up. i find it strange as it's really not an issue for me. i'm 18, he's 22. we're at the same level of maturity so i dont see a problem. also hes the lead in a pretty shit band and seems to think they're amazing! haha dreading him asking what i think of them... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gemstarrr Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 I'm lucky enough to have one of my best friends as my girlfriend, so I have the best of both worlds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Monkey Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 I'm lucky enough to have one of my best friends as my girlfriend, so I have the best of both worlds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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