singles thread

[Snufflebutt]

only thing is age seems to be an issue for him. he keeps mentioning it, only casually like 'at 22 i've not got the stamina for going out every night like you'. but it keeps coming up. i find it strange as it's really not an issue for me. i'm 18, he's 22. we're at the same level of maturity so i dont see a problem.

[Gre]

What a f**king weird thing to say. He's 22, not 72. As a 22 year old, I would rather go out with someone no older than 20 for the reasons you say.

Alarm bells would be ringing if I were you? Whats the point in a f**k buddy who comes up with shit reasons to not have sex with you?

[lolbeck]

and really glad i didn't cos i met someone i really like last week.

i'm home from uni for the week so we haven't been out yet but hopefully next week

only thing is age seems to be an issue for him. he keeps mentioning it, only casually like 'at 22 i've not got the stamina for going out every night like you'. but it keeps coming up. i find it strange as it's really not an issue for me. i'm 18, he's 22. we're at the same level of maturity so i dont see a problem.

also hes the lead in a pretty shit band and seems to think they're amazing! haha dreading him asking what i think of them...

[gemstarrr]

yea it's a different person. wants something more than casual and seems to really like me.

he's not actually said age is a problem but because he keeps mentioning his age and comparing to to me i think that it is for him :/

but i've got alot of friends who are 20/21 so 22 really doesn't seem any different to me. its only 4 years, and i'm 19 soon. he has just graduated uni but he'll be living with people next year who are still at uni so he'll still be living the same kind of lifestyle.

but as i said we've not even been on a date yet! think i'm just gonna confront him about it cos it's obviously on his mind from what he's said.

i'm happy he's older, i'm so fed up of being messed around by guys my own age and he's obviously been through that stage by now.

i'm back in the city now so i'll see him soon, i'll let you all know how it goes

[Glitter+Vodka]

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They're only hard and confusing if you make them that way, make them fun and exciting instead.

[dakyras]

it is fun and exciting when we are together, but the hard and confusing stuff is gettin in the way of that

[brighteyes]

Tonight I saw a girl who I slept with four years ago, she's stunning, and it made me all emo about how I used to be a stud. but thinking about it, I never used to be a stud, that one occasion was just luck

omg i was never a stud and never will be, omg

lucky?

[Gre]

i'm so fed up of being messed around by guys my own age and he's obviously been through that stage by now.

[lolbeck]

Saw my mates from home today for the first time since Easter. Met one mate's girlfriend for the first time. They've been together since Christmas, I think. She's very nice. Turns out the mate and the girlfriend have just moved in together. As innnnn, she moved down from Sheffield, and moved in to be with him at uni in Nottingham. Left her job to get a new one and all. I think she said she's starting at Nottingham Trent uni this year or next, so obviously it's convinient, but still.

Made me a bit panicky. Mostly because they're both 19, so...it seems a bit young to be doing the whole moving-in thing. Maybe that's just me.

That, on top of all the other mates talking about holidays with their girlfriends and meeting partners parents and the like, made me realise I'm actually quite lonely and it's no wonder I'm still single if I'm so picky about men.

But then I realised I don't really know what I want, so it's probably best I steer clear of boyfriendy stuff til I've figured that out.

Relationships are scary

[brighteyes]

Feckin 'ell Lolbeck, don't take it [life] too seriously. I was really excited to report that earlier on i was chatting with some friend, and this girl pulled me out of nowhere, it was ace, like I had a penis and everything, a full size one

But this is what i was gonna post, if you don't like it then you suck even more than that girl would have sucked my cock like a little bitch until she sobered up like a little bitch,

p.s my dad's dog died earlier x

Edit: I'm not even sure if it was me that posted this. But I'll leave it anyway.

But yeah, seriously, I was chatting with a friend at the bar, and this girl just came up to me and chatted me up. Huge confidence boost for the P-Cock, it's great being chatted up. Then we pulled for a while and my friends were in awe of me, quite rightly. Good times.

Edited July 4, 2010 by brighteyes

[Snufflebutt]

That, on top of all the other mates talking about holidays with their girlfriends and meeting partners parents and the like, made me realise I'm actually quite lonely and it's no wonder I'm still single if I'm so picky about men.

[lolbeck]

Yeah, I hate this too. Its much, much better to be picky than desperate though.

[Lithium05]

Had a rather stressful weekend....

Remember a while ago I mentioned my mate spending obscene ammounts of money he doesn't have on a trip to Cuba for him and his GF of 4 years?

Well...

Not sure if I have mentioned or not, but while in Cuba he proposed. When he returned he asked me to be his best man.

Let me take you further back in time now, to 3 years ago, he and I were working together and he told me that, despite loving his girlfriend, he really fancied this girl we worked with and wanted to try and find out if she felt the same way... I told him that if he did that, while he had a girlfriend it would effectively be cheating, he said he wouldn't do anything, but it later transpired that he did talk to her and she shot him down because she knows his girlfriend (who he also met at work, but she had left by this point) He still works in the same place, this other girl has since moved on.

Now, back to the present. Friday night was their engagement drinks. All her friends and all his friends and work mates turned out at the local wetherspoons (classy no? Sadly it's the only place you can get most of our friends to go as they're all convinced everywhere else is too expensive).

I was sat next to the future bride and she asked me what the groom was doing and could I go get him. I spotted him sitting on a sofa talking to a girl he worked with that I had met a couple of times before. I went over and sat down intending to wait for them to finish talking so I could pass on the message. My arse had barely hit the seat when he snapped at me in a violent tone "NOT NOW". I started to say that his fiance wanted a word, but before I got past the first syllabol I was interupted with a "just f**k off". Now I assumed that she was having some sort of personal problem that he was talking to her about that wasn't any of my business. I went back to the fiancé and told her what I thought was going on (she had a problem and he was talking her through it)

I left it there and started to talk to some other mates. About an hour later, one of our mates came in from outside saying the two who's engagement we were celebrating were having a big bust up outside. Before I went out there, another good mate took me to one side and told me that the groom to be had phoned him in a state a few days before, wracked with guilt having got off with a girl from work and not knowing what to do about it . The girl he had spent the whole night talking to. That he though it was a good idea to invite to the engagement party.

I ran outside and saw the bride storm off, the groom was already surrounded by people, but she was on her own, so I went after her. She told me that he'd said he was having second thoughts and wasn't sure he wanted to go through with the engagement anymore. He hadn't told her about the other girl. I left her with her friends who had caught up to us by this point and went to find out what the f*ck was going through my mates head. I found him standing outside a club with this other girl and a couple of our other mates. I told him to go home, get his head straight and I would come round about midday to try and help him sort this mess out. I said not to do anything rash until I had talked to him sobre. I also told him if he wasn't alone I would beat the shit out of him (I was quite angry by this point, not least because he made me best man and I felt like I was the last one to know about all this shit) he asked me to punch him anyway, I obliged with a heavy blow to his jaw and left him (because I'm broke and my lift was leaving).

I got a text from his (former) fiancé at 10.30 the following morning saying he had broken up with her and told her he would rather be with someone else.

So I had all that to deal with, on top of that my Nan's in the hospital after refusing to eat or drink for a week, and has also bee diagnosed with alzeimers. One of my best mates has been diagnosed paranoid schizophrenic and instead of letting his pills work he's getting trashed on booze at every oppertunity. Another mate of mine has the delusion that it's a piece of piss to make millions from a home made zombie film with the most cliche'd script ever - feeling sorry for him I agreed to help him re-write it. And to top it all off there's a chance I'll be out of a job by the end of the day and have no way to pay off my hefty pile of debt.

So erm, yeah, having a shit time of it at the moment. Only silver lining is that I f**king hate my job and won't have that on my mind anymore.

[Gre]

Double posting and all!

The rest of the stuff really really sucks, and I'm not really in any place to offer advice for much/any of it, so I won't attempt.

But as for the now ex-couple, it sounds like he's a bit of a twat and she's had a lucky escape. Hopefully they'll stay apart and he'll grow up a bit. Better for the both of them that this has all come out before they've started planning a wedding, paying for thing etc. Or even worse, after they've got married.

[lolbeck]

Double posting and all!

The rest of the stuff really really sucks, and I'm not really in any place to offer advice for much/any of it, so I won't attempt.

But as for the now ex-couple, it sounds like he's a bit of a twat and she's had a lucky escape. Hopefully they'll stay apart and he'll grow up a bit. Better for the both of them that this has all come out before they've started planning a wedding, paying for thing etc. Or even worse, after they've got married.

[Lithium05]

I've made sure he knows he's a knob. I've also told him not to expect anyone to warm to this new girl any time soon, while it's not her fault, she knew he was engaged and got involved anyway.

[Lithium05]

On the job side of things, the second disciplinary meeting I was supposed to have this morning (due to not meeting the weekly targets) has been postponed, giving me enough time to join a union and let them know my situation (I'm not given enough work to meet weekly targets, plus other problems I've had with HR and my manager) so should I be let go I can sort out wrongful termination.

As well as that i've used almost all of my holiday pay, but a new job would replenish that, so I could possibly take my second trip of the year to Amsterdam

[nightcrawler13]

just made my first mix cd in years

[markeee]

Have you told him it's not an issue for you?

But, errr, I'm with the guys. Alarm bells. That's a stupid reason to not want to be with someone, especially since it's hardly a big age gap. And most 21-22 year old guys I've met tend to want girlfriends who are 18-19 and full of life...

[ampersand]

someone sent me a photo of them being attacked by a sheep! i like these texts

[brighteyes]

just made my first mix cd in years

[Snufflebutt]

God, why the hell do girls send such boring texts? I've been seeing this girl for a week and all she sends me is random crap like I just used the photo copier at work, my cat is so cute eating, I just went to the post office. Finding it very hard hard not to text back I don't care.

[markeee]

God, why the hell do girls send such boring texts? I've been seeing this girl for a week and all she sends me is random crap like I just used the photo copier at work, my cat is so cute eating, I just went to the post office. Finding it very hard hard not to text back I don't care.

[Gre]

God, why the hell do girls send such boring texts? I've been seeing this girl for a week and all she sends me is random crap like I just used the photo copier at work, my cat is so cute eating, I just went to the post office. Finding it very hard hard not to text back I don't care.

[bunique]

haha wow, good luck with that one

moving area and moving in with someone after what 6/7 months? Massive mistake, a girl I know just got engaged to a guy after 3months lol - and they're now living together

can only end in tears imo

Live with mates, don't live with partners after a few months,