singles thread

[Goblinz]

Your sentance starts with 'Seriously though'.

There is something wrong with it (to me anyway). How can you go out with the intention of meeting someone?? It stinks of 'anyone will do' or 'best one that comes along gets to be with me, lucky thing'. Sorry to pick on you personally, I'm sure it's how most people view going out. Doesn't mean I have to like it though.

Oh, actually, you've said there's nowt wrong with going out with the intention of meeting people though. Perhaps I was reading it wrong before, or you've decided you swing both ways?

I would describe it as I did, as a cattle market.

[greeneyes1980]

just need somewhere special to nuzzle my little man for the summer months?

a little garden of good and evil if you will.

ladys?

Edited February 5, 2008 by greeneyes1980

[Lithium05]

See my problem is that about 3 or 4 years ago (at the age of 18/19) all my male and female friends started coupling up together and now what started with a group of about 20 or so friends has turned into 9 couples (only 4 of the original 20 are seeing people outside the original group) 2 single blokes (me included) and 2 single girls.

It's not been discussed (well, I haven't been involved in the discussions ) but I get the impression that the aforementioned 9 couples want to see the remaining 4 of us "hook up" to set up some twee dinner parties and other coupley activities.

With all my friends having this sort of outlook, and me not wanting to "hook up" with one of my friends. My window for social interaction with a member of the opposite sex is incredibly limited. Particularly with the slightly cliquey/elitist nature of some of the members of my group of friends who frown upon outsiders (even when at festivals they don't put up with "randoms" coming over for a chat.)

Like I said this kind of puts me in a bind as social outings only occur with people who aren't looking for anyone new and leaves me (without much in the way of confidence when it comes to walking over to someone and "chatting them up") just tagging along like some kind of 19th wheel!

Not sure how coherent that was

Edit: wow that was some rant... it must be tuesday, I never have like tuesdays

Edited February 5, 2008 by Lithium05

[Katster]

So what's the problem with going out with a couple of single male friends?

[Gre]

Lithium - I know how you feel. I am the last single out of my group (all but 1 of whom are with someone else in the group), and all our social activities are completely non-pulling based (to put it crudely). I can't blame any of them for that though. It just means I have to make an effort to do my own thing, to meet people another way. Its not ideal, especially considering how shy I am with new people, but its good in many ways

Edited February 5, 2008 by Gre

[Goblinz]

Nothing at all, I never said there was.

It was just the way your post came across, very letchy and 'male'. It wasn't what I expected from you, that's all.

[Lithium05]

Lithium - I know how you feel. I am the last single out of my group (all but 1 of whom are with someone else in the group), and all our social activities are completely non-pulling based (to put it crudely). I can't blame any of them for that though. It just means I have to make an effort to do my own thing, to meet people another way. Its not ideal, especially considering how shy I am with new people, but its good in many ways

Edited February 5, 2008 by Lithium05

[Gre]

Sounds more or less identical to my situation

[Lithium05]

Sucks, eh?

I forgot to mention; one of my mates has taken it upon himself to 'help me get a girlfriend'. His number 1 plan; a friend of one of the group who split from her husband of less than a year, 2 months ago. Now if that isn't desperate I don't know what is.

[rabid]

Lithium - I know how you feel. I am the last single out of my group (all but 1 of whom are with someone else in the group), and all our social activities are completely non-pulling based (to put it crudely). I can't blame any of them for that though. It just means I have to make an effort to do my own thing, to meet people another way. Its not ideal, especially considering how shy I am with new people, but its good in many ways

[greenfairy43]

Yup, been there. Didnt help being just on the lighter side of 40 with some of my mates passing over to the darker side, even went to festivals as a gooseberry (not literally but that could be fun). Just had to bite the bullet and branch out and make new friends. Worked out very well for me.

[minute5072]

Hasn't it........

[greenfairy43]

just get out!

[Katster]

Didn't mean to sound letchy... I'm not letchy, really. I can't deny being male though.

I know you often get hassle from pissed up guys in clubs, I am not like that though... It's the difference between talking to someone and incessantly trying to get in their pants.

G

[Atlanteanlost]

Okey dokey, just sounded a bit bleurgh. Probably me being touchy, you have no idea how annoying pissed up guys in clubs can be. They don't even have to be pissed up, I just seem to attract morons when all I want is to be left alone.

[Lithium05]

Hey! At least you still attract, the only thing I attract is dust

[Katster]

Hey! At least you still attract, the only thing I attract is dust

[Atlanteanlost]

There seems to be alot of negativity on here at the mo (myself included) I wonder if this has anything to do with any gullable loved up sap's favourite day of the year approaching

[Lithium05]

As mentioned in a previous post. Because I am essentially evil these days I will be sending Valentines Cards anonymously to happy couples so as to invoke jealousy and testing or corrupting their oh so loved up, look at how happy we are sickening perfectness. Special attention wil be paid to those precious couples who have at some point over the past year said something along the lines of "you need a girlfriend, we are so happy so you would be".

[Atlanteanlost]

I'd sooner attract dust than morons. The blokes I fancy (who are few and far between) don't look at me twice.

I'm not being stubborn in my bets with WoW and TGT, I'm being realistic.

[sifi]

As mentioned in a previous post. Because I am essentially evil these days I will be sending Valentines Cards anonymously to happy couples so as to invoke jealousy and testing or corrupting their oh so loved up, look at how happy we are sickening perfectness. Special attention wil be paid to those precious couples who have at some point over the past year said something along the lines of "you need a girlfriend, we are so happy so you would be".

[Atlanteanlost]

Wouldn't work with me, I'm afraid. The Post Office tend to ask me to go down and pick all mine up rather than having it delivered because of the logistics involved and fear it would put out the postie's back.

[William of Walworth]

Oh dear, more Valentines negativism!

Don't you bother sending any of your destabilisation cards too US, Atlantean. Would not work!!!

As a former very single regular on the old singles thread, I just want to pass on, in the spirit (hopefully) of encouraging ansd inspiring others, and seriously not intended to nauseate you, the news that Deb and I have been together six months now, as of yesterday (Tuesday 5th Feb.).

It's all been going swimmingly despite us being 200 miles from each other more often than not. Our weekends are of rare value though and we have them all planned right up to and including the festival season. Wonderful times, we're off to Spain (Dragon Festival and Granada) over Easter, frinstance, and will be working Glastonbury together. Among many others.

The real point for the singles thread is this : this time last year, in fact the whole first six months at least of last year and a lot of 2006 as well, I thought the prospect of my meeting someone so compatible, with so may uncannily similar interests (beer and festivals and music yay!!), so many shared life outlooks and life plans, and not least so hot , was somewhere between less than zero and zero.

How wrong I was in my downhertedness and pessimism. Better things can come to us all. If you want them anyway. Yes takes good luck, but we're all due a chunky slice of good luck in life at times, so have some of mine on a plate ...

Edited February 6, 2008 by William of Walworth

[Atlanteanlost]

Oh dear, more Valentines negativism!

Don't you bother sending any of your destabilisation cards too US, Atlantean. Would not work!!!

As a former very single regular on the old singles thread, I just want to pass on, in the spirit (hopefully) of encouraging ansd inspiring others, and seriously not intended to nauseate you, the news that Deb and I have been together six months now, as of yesterday (Tuesday 5th Feb.).

It's all been going swimmingly despite us being 200 miles from each other more often than not. Our weekends are of rare value thoughand we have them all planned right up to and including the festival season. Wonderful times, we're off to Spain (Dragon Festival and Granada) over Easter, frinstance, and will be working Glastonbury together. Among many others.

The real point for the singles thread is this : this time last year, in fact the whole first six months at least of last year and a lot of 2006 as well, I thought the prospect of my meeting someone so compatible, with so may uncannily similar interests (beer and festivals and music yay!!), so many shared life outlooks and life plans, and not least so hot , was somewhere between less than zero and zero.

How wrong I was in my downhertedness and pessimism. Better things can come to us all. If you want them anyway. Yes takes good luck, but we're all due a chunky slice of good luck in life at times, so have some of mine on a plate ...

[William of Walworth]

Thanks for the enthusiastic and somewhat sickening plattitudes, and could you please stop reminding us how long you and Deb have been together, its almost like you are constantly reassuring yourself and nobody else.

Edited February 6, 2008 by William of Walworth